When Your Marriage Is Falling Apart Here’s What Helps
Does it feel like your marriage is sliding through your hands towards an inevitable messy and painful end??
The thoughts that go through your mind may sound something like this:
“This sucks. Why is this happening? Why didn’t she say something? What a loser I must be! This is going to be so horrible for everyone. I hate that this is happening. This just may kill me.”
Here’s the truth.
Those are just thoughts.
And…yes, thoughts can destroy you if you let them. In fact, everything you feel and everything you do is a reaction to your thoughts.
My advice is to choose your thoughts carefully because they WILL decide your future for you.
What if you could just decide to think different thoughts?
What if the pain and fear and horror you’re thinking is going to happen is just some damn story you’ve allowed yourself to believe?
This is exactly what happens to men who are facing the end of a relationship or marriage.
They tend to believe every stupid thought that runs through their head. And it makes them anxious, angry, depressed and hopeless.
I’ve been there, I know
There is a MUCH better way and I’ve been trying to find a way to tell you this that’s believable…a way that might make sense to you.
So I recruited an old friend, client and all around amazing dude to help explain the journey.
See what Michael has to share below.
Best Quote from the Video:
“When I was falling into the darkness I thought I might find a woman to save me but I found something better…myself!”
The secret to surviving and thriving in the process of a potential breakup is changing your thoughts.
Yes, this sucks…but YOU don’t suck.
Yes, this isn’t the story you hoped for…but there are MANY stories available to you.
Men who regain confidence, clarity and swagger during this time discover something you don’t know yet.
When you stop thinking all those crazy making thoughts you will feel better.
And when you replace those thoughts with clear, confident truths about your future you will feel stronger.
Is it easy? No.
Is it absolutely, unarguably necessary? Hell yes!
This is what I teach men.
You can learn how to change your thoughts and immediately change how you feel which permanently changes the trajectory of your future.
How’s that sound?
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As Teddy Roosevelt said:
“In any moment of decision, the best thing you can do is the right thing, the next best thing is the wrong thing, and the worst thing you can do is nothing.”
Q: Why does it feel like my marriage is slipping away and there’s nothing I can do to stop it?
A: Because you’re believing every fearful thought your mind throws at you. Thoughts like “I’m a failure” or “This is hopeless” feel true—but they’re not facts. They’re just stories. When you change the story you believe, you change the strength, peace, and clarity you feel.
Q: How do I stop the panic and hopelessness when my wife says she’s done?
A: Start by separating what’s happening from what you’re thinking about it. The situation might be painful, but your mind’s reaction is what creates the suffering. Calm your thoughts, breathe, and remind yourself—you’re still the man who can lead yourself out of this storm.
Q: Why do my thoughts feel so overwhelming during a breakup or separation?
A: Because your brain is wired to protect you from loss and rejection—it floods you with worst-case scenarios. But those scenarios are fiction until you make them true. Men who learn to observe their thoughts instead of obeying them discover instant emotional power and peace.
Q: Can I really change how I feel just by changing my thoughts?
A: Absolutely. Every emotion you feel is created by what you’re thinking in that moment. When you replace fear-based thoughts with grounded, confident truths—your body relaxes, your clarity returns, and your decisions improve. This is how strong men rebuild after heartbreak.
Q: What should I focus on when I’m losing control of my marriage?
A: Focus on what you can control—your thinking, your energy, and your actions. Stop trying to predict her next move. Instead, lead yourself. Build emotional stability. As one of our clients said, “I thought I needed her to save me, but I found something better—myself.”
Q: What’s the first step to regaining my confidence after heartbreak?
A: Take back your mind. Join men who’ve done this work and learned to stay calm, confident, and clear no matter what happens next. Apply for a coaching call or join our Roundtable—because the moment you stop believing your fearful thoughts, your real power returns.
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