Your Secret Power Is Creating Positive Feelings In Your Wife
Hey guys, I have a question for you. If today you were given a secret power to instantly create a positive experience for anyone – anytime, why wouldn’t you use it? Can you think of any reason that you would consciously withhold using this power in your life? Assume it has no limits and you don’t have to “save” your power. How generous would you be?
Guess what? This power is absolutely, positively inside you. Always has been. This is not an April Fool’s joke. This is not a story or analogy. This is a certain truth about your masculinity that you have probably never been told. This is where I come in, brother.
When it comes to your relationships, especially your romantic and parenting relationships, you are being watched very closely. Not literally “watched” – but your intentions are being received and felt every minute. The women in your life are particularly programmed to react to your intentions, your tone, your words, your emotion, and your mood. This also applies if you are in a leadership position at work or church.
The truth about your masculinity is that, when properly developed, it is a secret power that can be used to create powerful feelings of connection, happiness, trust, and respect in all of your relationships if you choose to do so.
Note to the ladies reading – the answer is “Yes”. You ALSO have this power. It comes from your core femininity and it is mind-blowing! Your power is EQUAL to your man‘s power. But, it manifests itself in very different ways.
| “If you have the power to create a positive experience, then why wouldn’t you do it? ~ Joe Vitale |
So, I ask again, why wouldn’t you use it? Some of my clients, even when they begin learning of this power will give excuses:
- My wife has been rejecting me
- My employees disrespect me
- My kids won’t listen to me
- My girlfriend has been neglecting me
When these men finally have their epiphany, they bang their head on the table. This is because they are faced with admitting that they have been stingy with their power. They finally realize that the man they want to be uses this power constantly. This power must ALWAYS come from a PLACE OF LOVE and is used as a blessing or a gift to others in your life without expectation. A great man gives this gift to others not to GET anything in return, but because it is who he is.
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What do the gifts look like – sound like – feel like?
These masculine gifts look like a genuinely happy, optimistic, and confident man. They sound like authentic words of affirmation and support. They feel like an organic energy full of respect, admiration, and trust. If these gifts are delivered from a masculine core of confidence and self-respect, their truth and power are undeniable. Gentlemen, I’m not making this up just to write an article. This is absolutely true. This is my gift to you.
If a man is unable to give these natural gifts from a place of love and a developed masculine core, he has NO BUSINESS expecting to receive these from anyone else in his life. Until he learns how to use his secret power, ALL of his relationships will experience problems because he has not accepted his role in creating an environment where others can feel safe in giving of themselves and showing their trust and respect in him.
I invite all men who want to become the man they were meant to be to think about their secret power. Is it developed enough? Do you understand it well enough? What can you do tomorrow that will show your commitment to using the power wisely?
This is a life skill that is a GAME CHANGER. Contact me right away to discuss YOUR plans for changing this skill AND the rest of your life.
Q: What exactly is this “secret power” you say every man has?
A: It’s your ability to create a positive emotional experience for others instantly — through your presence, tone, intention, and energy. When your masculinity is grounded, intentional, and loving, people feel you. Especially the women and children in your life.
Q: Why don’t most men use this power?
A: Because they’re stuck in resentment, rejection, or insecurity. They think they have to “get” something first before they give anything. The truth? A great man gives freely because it’s who he is — not because of how others behave.
Q: How do I know if I’ve been “stingy” with my masculine power?
A: Simple. If you’ve been withholding affection, appreciation, playfulness, leadership, or emotional steadiness because of how she’s been treating you… then yes, you’ve been stingy. And you’re hurting yourself more than anyone else.
Q: What do these masculine gifts actually look like?
A: They look like a man who is warm, confident, optimistic, steady, affectionate, encouraging, and fully grounded in himself. They feel like emotional safety, respect, trust, admiration, and clarity. They sound like supportive, calm, intentional words — never needy, whiny, or defensive.
Q: Why should I give anything when I’m the one being rejected or disrespected?
A: Because your power isn’t about their behaviour — it’s about who you choose to be. When you lead with generosity, integrity, and emotional strength, you create an environment where others naturally respond with more trust, softness, respect, and connection.
Q: How do I start developing this secret power tomorrow?
A: Start by giving without expecting anything back. Lead with calm confidence. Speak from intention, not emotion. Offer warmth without fear. Set boundaries without anger. And choose to be the man who brings positive energy into every room he enters.
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