Wife Is Not Sexually Attracted To Me Anymore What Can I Do?
Over my years as a men’s coach, there’s one thing I see over and over again when a wife is not sexually attracted to her husband anymore…he needs to learn how his energy and mood are affecting her libido.
If you spend much time feeling anxious, agitated, irritated, overwhelmed or angry…I can accurately predict that you aren’t having much sex right now, yes?
Why?
Simple. When you’re feeling those emotions, she will be feeling them and while it would be wonderful for her to lean in and offer to support you through them, that’s not the reaction that most women have in their body. Especially when you are blaming her for your negative emotional state.
Are you blaming her?
So how do you become a calmer, more attractive man (even when sex is off the table right now…)
I know what you’re thinking. But sometimes sex is the BEST remedy for emotions like anxiety or overwhelm.
I agree! But if your mood is really shitty at the moment, self-remedy is probably the only good option.
Relax And Be Your Normal, Sexy Self Again
I have no idea how YOU do it. I only know about me and I’ll share that below.
Today I started getting anxious, pissed, overwhelmed and agitated over something I had no control over…
…a power outage that lasted about 2 hours.
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I know, it’s not a big deal, but I had work to do. Internet was down – the phone was down and I even got kicked off a video call I was on.
Then I remembered an email I received a couple of days ago.
It was from a guy who listened to this Guided Meditation Audio I did a few years ago. I almost forgot about it.
He said he loved it and shared his experience listening to it. He said, “WOW, what a center I found, a place of calm.”
I thought, “Damn, why didn’t I think of that? And it’s my own damn meditation.”
As I explain in this video, one way to deal with a pattern of anxiety, agitation and anger is to imagine a better version of yourself.
Imagine being “that guy” you picture in your head.
That calm, cool, deliberate and amused man you’d love to be but keep sabotaging yourself.
It’s a battle we all fight, brother. Do it for you and nobody else!
Click this link to listen to: “Being That Guy” It’s about a personal story I’ll never forget.
How to Handle Anger and Anxiety and Be a Sexier Man
Will Meditation Actually Help If She’s Giving Less Sex?
Not all by itself… But I can guarantee if you don’t learn how to relax – be more calm and confident – and stop REACTING to triggers instead of RESPONDING to them…sex will be very hard to come by.
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First things first. Get yourself out of a shitty mood without her needing to do it for you. Do the mediation I shared. It’s just one tool to help you be the sexy man you know you are when she’s giving less sex. If your sex life doesn’t improve, contact us for a free coaching call where we’ll help you identify what kind of man you need to BE to HAVE what you want.
Q: Why does my wife lose sexual attraction when I’m anxious, irritated, or overwhelmed?
A: Because women feel your emotional energy more than your words. When you’re agitated or anxious, her body senses danger—not desire. Sexual attraction can’t grow in emotional tension. When you calm your nervous system, you calm hers—and that is when her libido has space to wake up again.
Q: How do I stop blaming my wife for my stress and negative emotions?
A: Start by noticing when you expect her to calm you, soothe you, or fix your mood. That’s emotional dependency, and it kills attraction fast. Own your emotions. Regulate yourself. A man who manages his internal world is a man a woman can relax around—and desire again.
Q: What’s the fastest way to become calmer and more attractive when sex is off the table?
A: Get yourself into a centered, grounded state. Use meditation, breathing, movement, or quiet time. The key is simple: stop reacting and start responding. When you relax and return to your natural masculine ease, you become the man she wants to lean into—not the man she avoids.
Q: Can meditation or visualization actually improve my sex life?
A: Absolutely—when the goal is emotional regulation. Meditation won’t magically create sex, but it will transform the emotional environment between you. A calm, confident man is always sexier than a stressed, irritated one. Attraction grows when your nervous system stops screaming.
Q: How do I be “that guy”—the calm, cool, steady man I imagine in my head?
A: You practice becoming him daily. Visualize him. Breathe like him. Make decisions like him. Respond like him. When you embody the grounded version of yourself—even in small ways—you shift your energy. Women respond instinctively to the man who is emotionally in control of himself.
Q: What if I calm myself down and my wife still gives less sex?
A: Then emotional clarity becomes your next step. Being grounded is the foundation—but understanding the deeper dynamic, the resentment, the disconnect, or the fear underneath is where real change happens. If things don’t shift, get support. You may need to become a different kind of man to have the relationship you want.
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