Why Men Die Earlier Than Women
It’s a well documented fact that Men die earlier than women but why? What is it that causes men to wear out faster than their partners do? And what’s the solution?
The Reason Men Die Earlier Than Women May Surprise You
I always thought it was because women typically aren’t magnetized by risk, adventure and dangerous hobbies. (as in, “Hey, hold my beer and watch this!”)
And while those are contributing factors, I believe the REAL reason we die off before women is because of the chronic stress and anxiety levels caused by isolation and loneliness.
Recently I was with my best buddy from high school and college. I took a break in my old Chesapeake Bay stomping grounds around the town of St. Michaels on the eastern shore.
My friend, John, is one of those guys you can drink a beer with and talk about the next 20 years. He’s the kind of friend who is curious and listens. He asks good questions. He respects me and encourages me and I do the same for him.
This is also true of my long-time friend, Gerry, in Colorado. It’s true of Dan Dore and Tim Wade – my close friends and business colleagues.
I know I can say, “I love you man!” to all of the men in our community who have engaged with me in consistent, authentic and loving ways.
My friend, John, has a beautiful VRBO home on the water and he says ALL of his groups who comes as friend ARE WOMEN!
That’s right.
There are ZERO groups of men who come as friends.
A Healthy, Confident Man Has Plenty Of Great Male Friends
As much as we might make fun of a bunch of ladies gossiping incessantly with each other, the truth is that they hold connection, collaboration and mutual support MUCH HIGHER in their value system than most of us.
That’s the secret. People who proactively connect, bond, share and listen to each other in a trusting setting tend to live longer and happier lives.
That’s why I drove 1600 miles to see my buddy John and my brother Gary in Maryland this week.
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My value of having strong male bonds is why I’m:
- Flying to Utah for a golf retreat in September.
- Having a 3rd Ranch Retreat in October in Colorado.
- Flying to North Carolina in November for a casual rendezvous with 10 other guys from our Men’s Roundtable Community.
- Going back to Mexico in February for our Mojo Mastery Retreat.
Great men NEED other great men to keep them sharp and to keep them healthy.
We laugh, challenge, encourage and love each other like brothers.
Honestly, this is why we often spend hours talking with men at no charge on Zoom to understand their situations and to help them get what they really want. These are called “Discovery Calls” for lack of a better term.
A great, attractive husband is a prized member of his pack. His feelings of isolation and loneliness get filled by being with his pack. Discover what connection, support, and security feel like when you reach out to other amazing men.
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We can talk 1-1.
Let’s call it, TALK WITH A MAN WHO GIVES A SHIT ABOUT YOU AND WILL LISTEN WITHOUT JUDGMENT AND WILL OFFER YOU WISE COUNSEL, EMPATHETIC EAR AND EXPERT COACHING FOR FREE DAMMIT…call.” (click that link to request one now)
I know, this sounds like a STUPIDLY SIMPLE SOLUTION for men to live happier, healthier, stronger, fuller and more connected lives.
Are you ready to connect and find your mojo again?
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Think about joining me.
I love you, man!
Q: Why do men die earlier than women, and is it really because of isolation?
A: Yes. The data is clear: chronic stress, loneliness, and emotional isolation age men faster than their partners. It’s not the “hold my beer” moments—it’s the lack of meaningful male friendships. Connection lowers stress. Isolation destroys health. The fix is building consistent, supportive relationships with other good men.
Q: How does loneliness actually affect a man’s health and lifespan?
A: Think of loneliness as a slow drip of anxiety into your bloodstream. It elevates cortisol, weakens your immune system, steals your confidence, and erodes your happiness. Men without strong male friendships carry life’s burdens alone. That’s why connection, collaboration, and brotherhood become literal life-extension tools.
Q: What can I do if I don’t have any close male friends right now?
A: Start simple: talk to one man who actually gives a damn. Reach out. Say yes to conversations, retreats, Zoom calls, and groups where men show up with honesty. Every strong friendship begins with one courageous first step. Great men need other great men—and you’re not meant to do life alone.
Q: Why is it so hard for men to build friendships while women seem to do it so effortlessly?
A: Women value connection and emotional support far more than men were ever taught to. They prioritize bonding. They create communities. Meanwhile, men often rely only on their partner for emotional support—and collapse when that connection strains. A healthy, confident man has a pack, not a single lifeline.
Q: How do I know if I’m becoming one of those isolated, stressed, worn-out men?
A: Notice the signs: you feel alone, misunderstood, or cut off. You don’t talk openly with other men. You handle every burden solo. You feel “tired in your soul.” These aren’t weaknesses—they’re signals. Your nervous system is starving for connection, laughter, camaraderie, and men who challenge you and lift you up.
Q: What’s the first step to reconnecting with other men and finding my mojo again?
A: Say yes. Yes to a call. Yes to a retreat. Yes to a group of men who won’t judge you but will challenge you, support you, and love you like a brother. Connection is the cure. When you join a circle of great men, stress drops, confidence rises, and life opens up again.
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