What It Takes To Have Consistently High Mojo & Confidence
Do you want an instant boost to your mojo?
I’m talking about a sudden shift in your happiness, sense of purpose and connection with others. It’s an blinding flash of calmness and an instantaneous increase in your well being.
We do an exercise during our retreats called The Energy Audit.
It’s a very simple exercise which involves identifying all the DRAINING, negative, counter-productive B.S. in your life. It’s the people, place, habits and things you do that sabotage your mojo.
Then you list all the things you’re aware of that ENERGIZE you, motivate you and inspire you. These are the people, places, habits and things that give you a strong sense of wellness, happiness and purpose.
Then all you have to do is make a DECISION about what you are going to STOP so you can make time and energy to START something new.
Watch this video for an example of what I mean.
The only way to create a new direction in your life is to create new HABITS.
What’s that mean?
It means:
Stop eating and drinking stuff that makes you feel like crap
Start taking care of your body and your mind – take the smallest step possible
Stop saying “yes” to negative people and activities that drain you of energy and suck the life out of you
Start saying “yes” to things you LOVE to do – things that inspire, energize and motivate you.
Stop playing small and giving in to small talk, small thinking and small dreaming.
Start creating a new story of your life that’s so powerful it keeps you awake at night thinking about it.
I’ve created a worldwide community of men who know exactly what I’m talking about and they are making amazing changes in their life.
We work together at live meetups, group coaching events, a private Facebook group and retreats.
We are 80% of the way through 2024.
How are you going to use the rest of this year?
Here’s an idea.
Make a decision to serve yourself and the second half of your life.
Come and join us and a small gathering of initiated men.
Just say, “Screw it. I’m making time for me and I’m going!”
Yeah, it’s that simple.
And even though many wives and girlfriends get upset at first…they quietly admire and appreciate a man who is clear about who he is and what he wants.
I WANT TO MEET YOU!
Our upcoming Mexico Retreat is geared to the man who needs a big ol’ lovin’ shot in the ass…
Amazing men. Incredible conversations. Abundant relaxation and laughter. Great food. Life changing insights. Oh…and some pretty cool hikes and views too!
And that’s just a start.
Here’s what one guy said about our retreats:
“Quite honestly I found it life changing. It felt like the first time in my adult life I was able to crack open the layers of bullshit I’d built up over the years and get in touch with my true self. Added to which you had fantastic company, food, and location – I can’t speak highly enough of the experience.”
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If you’re thinking, “Oh, that’s too far away!”…last year we had guys from the US, UK, Europe and even Australia! So…quit whining. ;^)
If you want a more passionate life and relationships, then you need to learn how to be the kind of man who CREATES those things.
And if you’re unsure what to do for your unique situation…talk to us. We give every man who gets in touch with us a free 90 minute conversation. No sales pitch, no agenda, just a real man-to-man conversation about what you want and what’s holding you back from being confident in making it happen.
Free: If you’re serious about building your masculine mojo then apply for a coaching call with us we will help you identify what to focus on and what to avoid to get you feeling confident again.
What do I mean by “SERIOUS”?
- We take YOU and your struggles seriously…because we’ve been there
- We know living in a sexless marriage is serious…and so is showing your kids what a healthy affectionate relationship looks like
- A lack of intimacy of all kinds is serious now and for the long term health of your marriage
- We believe your personal emotional strength and well-being is serious
- We seriously show up 110% to our conversations with you and expect you to be as serious as we are about changing your life
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As Teddy Roosevelt said:
“In any moment of decision, the best thing you can do is the right thing, the next best thing is the wrong thing, and the worst thing you can do is nothing.”
Q: Why do I feel so drained and unmotivated lately?
A: Because your energy is leaking into things that don’t serve you. Negative habits, toxic conversations, and small thinking quietly kill your mojo. The first step is awareness. The next is ruthless elimination. Every “no” to what drains you makes room for what fuels you.
Q: How can I quickly boost my confidence and energy?
A: Do an Energy Audit. List what drains you and what energizes you—then act on it. Stop feeding what weakens you. Start saying yes to what makes you feel alive. Confidence isn’t found—it’s created by aligning your energy with what truly matters.
Q: Why do I keep saying yes to things that make me miserable?
A: Because you’ve been taught that pleasing others earns love. It doesn’t. It just burns you out. A confident man sets boundaries and chooses where his energy goes. Stop asking for permission to rest, to lead, or to be happy. You already have it.
Q: How do I rebuild my mojo after years of burnout or rejection?
A: Start small. Move your body. Eat clean. Surround yourself with men who challenge you to rise. Momentum builds self-respect. Once your actions reflect your values, your mojo comes roaring back. It’s not about perfection—it’s about direction.
Q: What’s the secret to feeling passionate about life again?
A: Passion returns when you stop living reactively and start creating intentionally. Do things that wake you up—adventure, challenge, brotherhood, creativity. You can’t think your way into passion; you have to live your way into it. Movement creates meaning.
Q: Why does joining a men’s retreat or group help so much?
A: Because men sharpen men. When you spend time with strong, honest, supportive brothers, your energy shifts fast. You stop feeling alone in your struggle and start feeling accountable to your potential. It’s not therapy—it’s transformation through connection.
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