Want More Intimacy In Your Marriage?
When you want more intimacy in your marriage but seem to the the only one who does, it can be a lonely experience. Complaining about it doesn’t help, so what can you do that works?
In our coaching we often talk about the power of brevity and the power of listening.
This is NOT about minimizing a woman’s complaints or her endless venting about her day. It’s NOT about how to dismiss people.
It’s about how to have better relationships with virtually everyone.
It’s about learning to RELAX with her. It’s about seeing her.
It’s mostly about listening and accepting her without an anxious need to solve her problem, fix her anger or make her “get to the freakin’ point!”.
This isn’t easy if you’re nervous or insecure.
It’s impossible if you feel anger or resentment.
Watch this first. Laugh along with me. Then read on.
I know…you’re still grinning.
Use that feeling of humor and insight to actually change how you are being.
Here’s an example of how I use this secret power when coaching men.
Seven Days to a Better Relationship…with ANYONE!
Try it for yourself.
I guarantee not only will others FEEL your warm, attentive energy…I guarantee YOU will feel better.
“I understand” is the simple choice to keep listening.
It’s the choice to keep present and connected.
It’s about your curiosity to actually know more. You can also say, ‘Tell me more.”
And it’s about your generous ability to let people talk about themselves and take yourself and your nervous energy out of the spotlight.
And that will feel amazing to both of you.
Try it for SEVEN DAYS with everyone you meet.
Then send us an email to tell us how it went.
How did it feel?
This is one of about 100 steps we teach men on their way to becoming “Mountain Lion” strong.
Cool, calm, confident. Heart beat around 40 bpm.
Unshakeable.
And unfuckwithable.
If you want to learn more about how to be comfortable, confident and peaceful in your own skin, I’d love to help show you the way. Here are 4 options for you to get started today:
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As Teddy Roosevelt said:
“In any moment of decision, the best thing you can do is the right thing, the next best thing is the wrong thing, and the worst thing you can do is nothing.”
Q: What can I do when I’m the only one who wants more intimacy in my marriage?
A: Stop chasing connection through complaints or frustration—it pushes her further away. The secret is in relaxing, listening, and accepting her without trying to fix or persuade. Intimacy grows naturally when she feels seen, not pressured. Presence creates safety; safety creates desire.
Q: How do I listen without feeling frustrated or impatient?
A: Shift your goal from “getting to the point” to simply being with her. Drop the nervous energy, breathe, and say, “I understand” or “Tell me more.” When you stop trying to manage her emotions, your calm curiosity becomes magnetic. That’s real masculine leadership.
Q: Why does “just listening” make such a difference in a relationship?
A: Because women feel intimacy through emotional connection, not problem-solving. When you truly listen, she feels valued and safe. The more she feels emotionally seen, the more she naturally opens up—physically and emotionally. Listening is foreplay for trust and attraction.
Q: What if I feel resentful because my needs aren’t being met?
A: Resentment means you’ve been giving with expectations instead of clarity. You can’t control her, but you can control your state. Reconnect with your own calm, confident center. Speak your truth kindly, and let go of the outcome. That’s what “unrattled masculinity” looks like.
Q: How can I practice being calmer and more connected in daily life?
A: Try the seven-day experiment: with everyone you meet, keep saying “I understand” and “Tell me more.” Stay curious instead of reactive. You’ll notice people softening around you—and you’ll feel grounded, powerful, and peaceful. That’s the energy women crave most.
Q: What’s the next step to rebuild intimacy and confidence in myself?
A: Get around men who are practicing this daily. Join the Roundtable or schedule a free Unrattled Masculine Mojo call. You’ll learn how to stay calm under pressure, listen deeply, and lead with heart instead of fear. Intimacy always follows emotional strength.
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