The Simplest Way to Be More Attractive to Her (or anyone for that matter)
Some things are just not as complicated as we make them.
Like relationships, for example.
One kind of guy has consistently shitty experiences in his relationships.
And another kind of guy has consistently pleasant experiences in his relationships.
Which one do you want to be today?
The reason we get shitty days and shitty relationships is mostly…and SIMPLY…because of our shitty thinking.
Shitty thinking makes us anxious, angry, short-tempered, agitated, annoyed, disappointed and judgmental as f*ck. (Guy #1)
Kind thinking makes us relax, happier, patient, present, curious, supportive and generous. (Guy #2)
Shitty thinking is normally plagued by continuous over-thinking, analysis and interrogation. It complicates every single little event and projects shitty meaning on to everything and everyone.
Today, I’m urging you (and me, honestly) to simply stop. Knock it off. Stop TRYING SO DAMN HARD to get people or things to go your way.
Just be nice. Seriously. Just that.
Here’s my nice, short video for you on the topic of being nice.
I like the advice Audrey Hepburn gave once about improving your looks.
“For attractive lips, speak words of kindness.”
—Audrey Hepburn
So simple, isn’t it?
You will never be more attractive, more magnetic and more happy with yourself than when you move through the day with kindness.
- Try thinking kinder thoughts.
- Make kinder assumptions about others.
- Make up kinder stories about what things mean.
- Try saying simple, kind things to people you don’t even know.
- Same thing again for people you DO know.
- Be kinder to yourself…eat better, exercise better and sleep better.
- And kids. If you have them. Play with your kids.
- And dogs. If you have them. Pet your dogs.
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Q: Why do some men always seem to struggle in relationships while others thrive?
A: It’s not luck—it’s thinking. Guys who constantly overthink, judge, and react from frustration create chaos. Guys who think with calmness, kindness, and curiosity create connection. Your experience doesn’t depend on who you’re with—it depends on the quality of your thoughts about them.
Q: How can I stop overthinking and ruining good moments in my relationship?
A: Knock it off. Seriously. Every time you analyze or judge, you project fear instead of peace. Pause, breathe, and choose a kind interpretation instead. The moment you stop trying to control everything, people relax around you—and that’s when things start feeling easy again.
Q: What’s the quickest way to improve how attractive I feel to my wife (or anyone)?
A: Be kind. That’s it. Speak kind words. Think kind thoughts. Move with kindness toward yourself and others. When you lead with warmth and generosity, your confidence radiates—and attraction follows naturally. As Audrey Hepburn said, “For attractive lips, speak words of kindness.”
Q: Why does my mood swing so fast between calm and irritated?
A: Because your thinking shifts that fast. Shitty thoughts create shitty moods. Kind thoughts create calm ones. Your emotional state isn’t about what’s happening—it’s about what you decide it means. Choose better meanings, and you’ll instantly feel more grounded and in control.
Q: What’s the secret to having consistently better days?
A: Simplicity. Stop trying so damn hard to get people or life to behave how you want. Be nicer—to yourself, your kids, your partner, your dog. Kindness quiets overthinking and brings peace back to your nervous system. The calmer you are, the better everything feels.
Q: How can I practice thinking kinder thoughts every day?
A: Start small. Compliment a stranger. Assume the best about your wife. Appreciate your kids and yourself out loud. These tiny shifts rewire your brain from criticism to compassion. And before long, you’ll notice—your relationships, your mood, and your whole life feel lighter and happier.
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