The Simple Truth To A Happier Day Today
Some guys consistently create their own pain and they don’t even know it.
How’s that, you say?
I mean they manufacture drama, conflict and tension by trying to protect their ego’s need to “be right”.
It’s that insecure, indignant part of us who needs show other people the error of their ways.
I came so close to doing this yesterday I almost jumped off the emotional cliff by pummeling a body shop with my anger and frustration.
This 2002 truck of mine was in for hail damage and a general face lift for THIRTY DAYS when they had promised to be done 14 days – tops.
My issue is less about the time it took than it is about their colossal lack of customer service, organization and professionalism.
I spent a lot of my former career worrying about those things on a daily basis, therefore, I can (or my ego can) fancy myself quite the authority on these matters.
In this video, I explain what happened yesterday when I went to finally pick it up.
In the heat of the moment, I had to decide if I want to be right or be happy.
I don’t want to complicate this topic.
It’s not rocket science.
Here’s my #1 tip for you to improve your mood and overall happiness.
Stop trying to convince other people they are wrong and that you are right.
Unless you’re arguing with your surgeon about what body part he’s removing, it’s probably a COMPLETE WASTE OF YOUR TIME.
Think about that.
What other things do you have to do or think about that are MORE IMPORTANT than winning this argument?
What priorities have you made in your life that need your attention more than you need to be right?
In that slight PAUSE between shutting your mouth and jumping off the emotional cliff…ask yourself those questions.
And if the incident involves your relationship with a woman, choosing to be happy instead of right will always make you say something more productive and attractive than what you were about to say.
Just sayin’. Give it some thought.
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As Teddy Roosevelt said:
“In any moment of decision, the best thing you can do is the right thing, the next best thing is the wrong thing, and the worst thing you can do is nothing.”
Q: Why do I always feel the need to prove I’m right?
A: Because your ego mistakes being right for being respected. It’s an old survival strategy that says, “If I lose this argument, I lose my value.” The truth is, real confidence doesn’t need proof—it speaks quietly, stands tall, and lets peace be the win.
Q: How do I stop getting angry when people are wrong?
A: Pause before you react. Ask yourself, “Do I want to be right or be happy?” Every argument invites you to practice emotional strength. When you stop fighting for ego validation, you start living with calm power—and that’s far more attractive than being right.
Q: What happens when I keep trying to fix or correct people?
A: You drain your own peace. The world doesn’t need your corrections—it needs your example. When you model grounded patience instead of judgment, you gain influence without raising your voice. That’s how strong men lead without trying to control.
Q: Why do I keep creating drama in my relationships?
A: Because every time you defend your ego, you invite conflict. You think you’re protecting yourself, but you’re actually feeding tension. Drop the need to win, and you’ll watch connection—and attraction—return faster than any clever argument ever could.
Q: How do I stay calm when someone disrespects me?
A: Calm doesn’t mean passive—it means disciplined. Take a breath, hold eye contact, and speak once with clarity. You don’t need to raise your tone to raise your standard. Emotional composure earns more respect than righteous anger ever will.
Q: What’s the quickest way to feel happier and more in control?
A: Stop trying to control others. Happiness starts the moment you stop managing the world’s chaos and start managing your own reactions. Every time you choose peace over pride, you gain power—and that’s the only control that truly matters.
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