The Quickest Way to Being a More Confident Man
There’s a bond that is like no other when two men commit to helping each other, without hiding anything, without holding anything back.
When a man first contacts us he often doesn’t have a certain type of man in his life…
A man he can depend on
A man he can trust
Someone who sees his qualities AND his weaknesses
Someone who isn’t scared to tell him something he doesn’t want to hear
And so once we start coaching with him, the question he invariably asks is “How can I find other men to do this with?”, “How can I create a mens group of my own?”.
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In the video below we discuss:
- Why it’s important that you connect with other initiated men
- How and where to find them
- What to do when you have no idea what to say
When we’re struggling in our lives and relationships, we can find ourselves in a lonely, dark and fearful place and we feel pretty isolated.
But the truth is that ALL of us have got some things that we’re afraid of. We all have some things in our life that make us feel uncomfortable, that we don’t want to talk about or confront.
We numb the pain with our drug of choice whether that’s alcohol, video games, porn, cigarettes, exercise or whatever.
Sometimes there are things you want to say, that you’ve always wanted to say, but you don’t.
You might have a dream in your mind about what you want to be or what you want to do and the kind of relationship, or the job, or the money you want to make…but you’re not saying it out loud.
We play small and avoid looking in the direction of our discomfort.
We let the fear control our potential.
And the sad thing is that most men never do say what they want to say or make the move toward a new future vision.
But that’s where you need high quality men in your life.
That’s exactly what other men can help you push through.
Because they get it. They feel it too.
They know what you’re going through and they can see the piece you’re missing.
It’s a difficult edge for us to push though. Connecting with men. Really connecting, not just small talk about sports or cars or fishing. Talking openly with someone about what you feel and where you’re struggling.
There’s a reason it feels hard. There’s a reason it feels scary.
And it’s called fear.
Fear of rejection. Fear of being laughed at. Fear of judgement and criticism.
But the truth is, we all feel those feelings of fear.
In fact all those responses you fear above are fearful responses in the person you’re talking to.
Yes, they’re just as fearful as you.
So with all this fear around, how can you get to the point when you’re slowly and surely, pushing yourself outside your comfort zone?
Because that’s where all your growth and opportunities are going to be.
And I’m here to tell you that YOU are one of those men you seek. You have the potential to feel the fear and do it anyway.
You have the power to create the life you want.
And the key is connecting with other men.
Great men who’ve got your back.
A great man can tell you when you need to back off a little. When you need to lean in more. When to push through the difficulties when everything else is telling you to give up.
A great man can help you understand how to make the very smallest little changes in the way you’re showing up, that will have the most exponential impact on your results.
In every area of your life.
It’s amazing when a man makes one small change….everything changes…for the better.
Real change and exponential improvements only happen when we push ourselves into the zone of discomfort.
We have to know when it’s time to take a stand, speak up and risk pissing other people off and we have to know how to respond to situations that might otherwise control our destiny.
This takes a commitment to learning, internalizing and PRACTICING a whole new mindset. New operating principles. Brand new mojo.
And we’ll never find that just in a book, video or podcast. What worked for me is what will work for you. Spending dedicated time with other initiated men and committing yourself to a process of personal change.
This is how we get the fire back in our belly. This is how our enthusiasm for life is reborn. And there’s nothing else we would rather do than to spend some quality time helping you do that.
We’ve developed a reliable 90-day process that connects you with other amazing men and it doesn’t hurt a bit.
Actually, we end up laughing together more than anything else.
You have to talk to other men, because you DO have a need to talk about this stuff. You need to communicate, to vent and be vulnerable, and talk about your fears.
It’s about the incredible breakthroughs we make when men team up and work together.
It’s about feeling heard and understood maybe for the first time ever.
It’s about that calm, confident, peaceful feeling we get when we see the truth about our masculine power and ability to live what we dream.
And it’s about creating new connections and a support network most men don’t have before they die.
We’ve already got some amazing guys from around the world booked in, You need to meet these guys. And they need to meet you.
We want you to feel like a strong, calm, confident and clear-headed man.
We want you to relax in situations that make normal men crazy.
We want you to grin with the knowledge you’re being who you want to be and you’re creating the life and love you want.
Next step?
Read more about our Mens Cave Group Coaching Program.
Then contact us if you want to get involved.
Is this a sales pitch?
Hell yes it’s a sales pitch!
We love what we do. We love watching men transform and become happy, confident men with swagger and a smile.
We love helping them stand up tall in their relationship and start becoming the man and partner they have always wanted to be.
That’s what we’re selling.
It’s going to follow the SAME 90-Day Masculine Confidence Intensive process we use for our one-on-one clients.
But you get to go through the process with the support of other men like you at ONE THIRD of the investment required for our one-on-one program.
We believe in YOU more than you may believe in yourself right now.
Sometimes that’s all it takes to help a man find that switch and start making exponential improvements.
If you like the sound of understanding who you are and where you’re going better then get in touch – apply for a consultation call. I guarantee you’ll feel a whole lot better by the end of our talk.
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Q: Why do I need other men when I already have a wife, kids, and a job?
A: Because none of those things give you what ONLY a strong male tribe can give you:
• truth without flattery
• support without agenda
• challenge without criticism
• courage without shame
Your wife can love you. Your kids can adore you. Your job can distract you.
But only other men can help you see your blind spots, confront your fears, and call you into the man you secretly know you’re capable of being.
Q: Why is it so hard to talk openly with other men about how I feel?
A: Because men have been trained—literally conditioned—for decades to stay in the shallow end of the pool.
We talk sports. Cars. Work. Weather.
But not fear. Not shame. Not desire.
Not the secret worry that something inside us is dying.
Opening up feels hard because you were never taught how.
And the men you try to open up to?
They were never taught either.
That’s why finding initiated men—men who’ve done the work—is life-changing.
Q: How do I find men who actually “get it” and don’t just joke everything away?
A: You go where the initiated men are.
Look for men who:
• listen more than they lecture
• challenge you without shaming you
• share their own fears openly
• want growth, not gossip
• care more about truth than comfort
You don’t need fifty of them.
You need ONE to start.
One good man who can be real with you.
One man who won’t flinch when you speak your truth.
Q: What do I say when I have no idea how to “connect” with another man deeply?
A: You say the thing you’re scared to say.
It can be as simple as:
• “I’ve been struggling.”
• “I don’t feel like myself lately.”
• “I don’t know what to do next.”
Men don’t bond over perfection.
Men bond over honesty.
Every deep conversation in a men’s group begins with one man deciding to stop performing and start being real.
Q: Why does connecting with good men feel scary? I’m not afraid of much.
A: Because emotional exposure doesn’t trigger physical fear—it triggers identity fear.
Fear of rejection.
Fear of judgment.
Fear of being seen and not liked.
Fear of someone discovering the part of you you’ve been running from.
Here’s the twist:
Every man you’re afraid to open up to is hiding the exact same fear.
When one man finally steps through that fear…
everyone else breathes easier and follows.
Q: Can one good men’s group actually change my relationship?
A: Yes—because it changes you.
When a man is supported, sharpened, challenged, and encouraged by strong men, he becomes calmer, clearer, more grounded, and more decisive.
That energy changes how he:
• listens
• speaks
• leads
• handles conflict
• responds to emotion
• carries himself in the home
A more grounded man creates a more grounded relationship.
Everything flows from your internal state.
Q: Why can’t I just read books or watch videos to grow? Why is a group necessary?
A: Because books don’t hold you accountable.
Videos don’t call you out.
Podcasts won’t challenge your excuses.
Only another man looking you in the eye can do that.
Growth happens when you step into discomfort with men who expect more from you—and refuse to let you hide.
That’s why men’s groups transform you exponentially faster than information ever will.
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