The KEY To Improving Intimacy In Marriage
Taking action is the key to improving intimacy in marriage. Masculine energy is proactive, decisive, courageous, bold, forward moving energy. It’s attractive because you have to be willing to take a risk for something you believe in.
It’s time to stop binge-watching all my videos and start doing something. In this article, I compare how binge-watching repair videos didn’t fix my truck. Taking action did. I guarantee you’ll also start getting results when you start taking action.
I need to replace the heater core in my Dodge 2500 truck. It’s leaking smelly radiator fluid onto the carpet and the defroster just fogs up the windshield.
Gotta do it.
Apparently, this is a really common problem on the 2002 models…along with the self-destructing plastic dashboard on these trucks.
So I did what we all do. I Googled it. Then I watched about 20 videos on the 125 step-by-step procedure for dashboard removal and part replacement and re-installation.
Holy crap. It’s a 6 hour job.
Then I start looking for “options”. I was hoping to find “easier” things like radiator STOP LEAK and other totally ineffective ways to avoid digging into the real problem.
Masculinity Takes Responsibility, Faces Risks & Fears
What am I afraid of, you ask?
- That I can’t do it.
- I’ll break something else.
- I’m concerned I’ll get it apart and can’t get it back together…and then I can’t even drive it to the mechanic?
- I’ll look stupid.
Maybe I’ll watch 20 more videos and just add radiator fluid and put an absorbent diaper on the floor.
I think about this issue when guys send me emails saying they’ve been binge-watching my videos but never had the nerve to reach out. Even the simple act of sending me an email took months…sometimes years.
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Too risky.
I get it. I’ve put off contacting coaches I’ve wanted to work with in the past.
I was afraid:
- Of trusting them to help me
- I couldn’t trust myself to follow through to get what I most wanted
- To face risks
In this video, I want to talk with you precisely about that.
The KEY To Improving Intimacy in Marriage
“The journey starts with a single step—not with thinking about taking a step.”
― Jeff Olson, The Slight Edge: Turning Simple Disciplines into Massive Success and Happiness
The biggest obstacle to a man getting what he wants is to spend too much time thinking about it.
The Masculine KEY To Improving Intimacy in Marriage Is Taking Action
Confidence Is Not A Prerequisite To Taking Action…It’s A Result.
This is why I recommend that you slow way down on the videos and self-help books until you’ve actually implemented ONE IDEA you’ve learned so far.
Don’t get tangled up in self-help hell. 90% of the stuff we read is saying the same thing. This missing link is action.
And if you think your NEXT action step is to talk with someone who can help you, then do it.
There are people who have done what you want to accomplish and it’s not weak to ask them for help. They’ve already made the mistakes necessary to help you avoid them. (which is why I have an appointment with my mechanic on Tuesday).
We do dozens of free consultation calls every month for men who are ready to take the next logical step.
I can make a guarantee for you right now.
I guarantee that the discomfort level of whatever relationship or marriage nightmare you’re experiencing will be reduced from Level 10 to Level 5 in ONE HOUR.
I know this because I know when you speak to someone who has been in your shoes your fear and loneliness level always drops about 50%.
My truck is fixed now. I took action and got a professional mechanic involved. I’ll say this again since 3rd time is the charm: Taking action is the masculine key to improving intimacy in your marriage! I hear something from men over and over. Men who’ve finally taken action and reached out to me. They all say: “Why didn’t I do this sooner!!”
Click this link to go to the Contact Page on my site.
Take action. Let’s connect.
Q: Why does improving intimacy in marriage require taking action instead of just learning more?
A: Because intimacy doesn’t respond to your thoughts—it responds to your behavior. Watching videos and reading books won’t change the emotional climate in your marriage. Masculine energy is proactive, decisive, and forward-moving. Attraction grows when you’re a man who does instead of a man who thinks about doing.
Q: How do I take action in my marriage when I don’t feel confident yet?
A: You act before you feel ready. Confidence isn’t a requirement—it’s a reward. When you take one courageous step, you get one courageous result. Your wife feels the shift. You feel the shift. Masculine confidence is built the same way your truck gets fixed—one bold move at a time, not 20 more videos.
Q: Why do I keep binge-watching marriage advice instead of taking action?
A: Because thinking feels safer than doing. Action requires risk. It exposes your fear of failing, looking weak, or being rejected. But that fear is exactly what keeps intimacy stuck. When you stay in self-help mode, nothing changes. When you take ownership and act, everything starts moving again—including her desire.
Q: What’s the first practical action I should take to improve intimacy with my wife?
A: Pick one thing you’ve learned and implement it today—without overthinking. Maybe it’s expressing what you want. Maybe it’s calmly responding instead of reacting. Maybe it’s reaching out for help. Don’t chase perfection. Take one step. Masculine leadership is built through small, consistent action—not theory.
Q: How can talking to a coach help more than watching videos?
A: Because videos don’t challenge you. A real conversation with someone who’s been exactly where you are drops your fear by 50% in an hour. It pulls you out of your head, breaks the isolation, and gives you direction. Intimacy improves when you improve—and that happens faster when another man walks with you.
Q: Why is taking action more attractive to my wife than anything I say?
A: Because women feel your energy, not your promises. When you act with clarity, courage, and self-respect, she feels safer, more relaxed, and more open. Taking action shows her you’re not stuck. It shows her you’re a man who can create emotional movement. And that’s the foundation of intimacy and desire.
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