The #1 Rule for Creating Intimate Connections
It’s sunrise right now and I’ve got my camera in my hand down at the barn.
It’s a perfectly calm, cool, crisp, gorgeous Colorado morning with the horses. I wish I could share it…and a cup of coffee with you.
I’m connecting with my horses this morning and it reminded me of the #1 Rule for Creating Intimate Connections we always talk about.
It’s so simple…but it’s not easy if you don’t understand it.
Here it is.
Close, intimate connections are the NATURAL OUTCOME between two people where negative PRESSURE is non-existent.
And…
When you remove all negative PRESSURE and replace it with CALM, CONFIDENCE and CURIOSITY, you will become irresistible.
This is precisely what you learn at The Confident Man Ranch Retreat coming up on October 6-9 in Loveland, Colorado. I want you to think about taking one of the LAST TWO SPOTS, brother.
Some men are afraid to hang out with horses. And some guys are afraid to hang out with other men! Here’s what a guy from last May had to say.
“I knew I was hiding out inside of me and I needed to find my mojo. No one ever told me what they saw in me…until I met these men. I wish I had it recorded so I could hear it more often… until it sinks in. I am an incredible, loving, patient, interesting man. Go. You will thank yourself for it, and your presence is a gift for all who attend. You will see for yourself how men can love and care for each other. 10 out of 10!”
I got up early to make this video with the horses to explain this in more detail for you. Use the energy of this video to calmly, confidently and curiously move through your day. Just watch how your connection with others changes when you give off this energy.
A man who knows how to create an environment that is safe for trust and connection will have all the intimacy he needs.
But, most of us were NEVER TAUGHT HOW TO CREATE A SAFE ENVIRONMENT.
Instead, we learned how to be wary, skeptical, tentative and fearful.
We learned fearful ways of interacting with women that include pressure, manipulation and begging.
Do you want to learn what your dad never told you?
The Confident Man Ranch Retreat can change your life in ways you won’t believe. You’ll return home with confident spirit, calm energy and a curious mindset. It will not go unnoticed!
This information page has all the details and amazing pictures of what you can expect.
Your private cabin…your personal horse…and an amazing experience are waiting for you.
As Teddy Roosevelt said:
“In any moment of decision, the best thing you can do is the right thing, the next best thing is the wrong thing, and the worst thing you can do is nothing.”
Lotta love, brother,
Steve
P.S. If you need a payment plan for the retreat, just say so. We’ll help you figure out how to do this!
Q: What’s the #1 rule for creating real intimacy and connection?
A: It’s simple but profound: remove negative pressure. When you stop trying to push, convince, or control—and replace that energy with calm, confidence, and curiosity—people naturally want to connect with you. Intimacy isn’t forced; it emerges in the absence of fear and pressure.
Q: Why do I keep feeling rejected or disconnected when I try to get closer to my wife?
A: Because your approach probably carries pressure—expectations, anxiety, or neediness. Even subtle pressure shuts down emotional safety. The secret is to create space where she feels free, not cornered. When you lead with grounded calm, connection flows back on its own.
Q: What does “negative pressure” look like in a relationship?
A: It’s the invisible tension created by your need for approval, reassurance, or sex. It sounds like “Why don’t you ever…?” or feels like walking on eggshells. It’s your energy saying, “I need something from you to feel okay.” True intimacy begins when you stop needing and start being.
Q: How can horses teach men about intimacy and confidence?
A: Horses mirror energy. If you bring tension, they pull away. If you bring calm, confidence, and curiosity, they trust you instantly. Women work the same way. The Confident Man Ranch Retreat helps men experience this firsthand—how your internal energy creates external connection.
Q: Why is calm confidence so attractive to women (and everyone)?
A: Because it signals safety. A calm man can handle emotion, chaos, and conflict without losing himself. Confidence isn’t loud—it’s steady. Curiosity shows care without control. When you embody those three—calm, confident, curious—you become magnetic.
Q: What can I expect from the Confident Man Ranch Retreat?
A: Four days of clarity, courage, and connection. You’ll work with horses, connect deeply with other men, and learn to live without pressure. You’ll leave with a new kind of strength—quiet, powerful, and unshakably calm. It’s more than a retreat—it’s a reset for your masculine spirit.
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