Sexless Marriage How to Attract Your Wife Again
Finding yourself in a sexless marriage doesn’t happen overnight. Let’s be honest, the intimacy has been low for a while. In this article I explain how to attract your wife again..
I talked to a man today whose wife has been detached, disinterested, dismissive and disrespectful.
She wants her space and independence and has pretty much designed a life of her own including weekends and vacations. She thinks he should find his own life too and learn to be happy.
He said he wanted to stop reacting so badly and learn to respond better to this new dynamic she’s created.
“What’s the difference between reacting and responding in this case?” he asked.
I told him that reactions come from a place of fear and insecurity.
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They almost always sound like questions and veiled threats with a nervous voice. They sound like this:
1. Why can’t you spend more time with me?
2. What do you get with your friends that you can’t get with me?
3. What do I have to do to get you to like being with me?
4. If you don’t start staying home on weekends, I’m not going to be very happy at all with that!
I know what it’s like to have that nervous, “little boy” energy and it sucks. Just as the words come out of our mouths we’re hating who we’re being.
And we know it’s a big part of why she doesn’t want to hang around.
But what should a man do instead?
What Does A Masculine RESPONSE Look Like?
How can you get her attention without feeling like a whiner?
I explain that in this video.
- Why your reactions are making things worse
- What you need most to respond clearly and confidently
- How a clear, masculine response actually sounds when you are confronting her elusive behavior
- Why you don’t need threats or ultimatums
Sexless Marriage? How to Respond in a Way That Will Attract Her Back to You
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Responses from anger or frustration are little boy behaviors. A confident, grounded, attractive man RESPONDS to a sexless marriage with masculine strength. He has clear expectations of himself and for himself. Set the bar for the behaviors in YOUR marriage by being this man.
Q: How do I attract my wife again when we’ve been in a sexless marriage for months or years?
A: You shift from anxious reacting to calm responding. Women aren’t drawn to men who panic, chase, or beg. Attraction grows when you show emotional stability, purpose, direction, and self-respect. When you stop operating from fear and start responding with grounded clarity, her nervous system relaxes—and her interest often returns.
Q: What’s the difference between reacting to my wife’s distance and responding like a masculine leader?
A: Reactions come from fear, insecurity, and little-boy energy—“Why don’t you want me?” Responses come from confidence, boundaries, and clarity—“Here’s what I want, and here’s who I choose to be.” One repels, the other attracts. Responding shows emotional maturity and instantly changes the dynamic.
Q: Why does my wife pull away more when I ask for more time, affection, or intimacy?
A: Because those questions carry pressure, insecurity, and neediness. She feels the emotional weight behind the words, not the words themselves. When your energy is anxious or grasping, she withdraws to protect her own emotional space. Attraction returns when she feels relaxed, not cornered.
Q: How do I talk to my wife about her distance without sounding needy or manipulative?
A: You drop the fear-based questions and speak from strength. A masculine response sounds calm, clear, and pressure-free. It focuses on your expectations for yourself, not attempts to control her. When you speak from grounded truth instead of emotional hunger, she actually hears you.
Q: Can a sexless marriage really change just by improving my emotional responses?
A: Yes—because your emotional presence shapes the environment she’s responding to. Sexual desire grows in safety, leadership, warmth, and confidence. When you become a man who responds instead of reacts, you create a new atmosphere—one she can breathe in, relax in, and eventually reconnect with.
Q: What’s the first step I should take right now to stop reacting and start responding?
A: Get support from other men. You can’t lead yourself out of insecurity alone. Whether it’s coaching, a men’s group, or your Roundtable, surrounding yourself with men who’ve walked this path gives you emotional clarity and practical tools. A sexless marriage changes when you change from the inside out.
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