Kick-Start The Passion in Your Sexless Marriage
When conflict and sexual frustration have developed in a relationship, there has been a long history of unhappy feelings and bad behaviour from both people.
Your partner knows all about the negative energy you have both created. While she is feeling unhappy and emotionally exhausted, she also knows how she has come-up short in how she has been treating you too.
When a woman feels like this, it’s impossible for her to feel sexually attracted to you.
But often us men don’t feel the same way.
We tend to think that connecting sexually now would help reconnect and sooth the bad feelings and negative energy that you’re both feeling.
She thinks this is INSANE.
This is a huge turn-off for her. To her, you wanting sex right now feels unattractive, needy, un-manly, and a little desperate.
There’s no way that she’s going to want to have sex with someone she’s not attracted to.
She knows that she’s treated you badly, so how could you possibly still feel attracted to her and want to have sex?
If you consistently make sexual advances toward a woman who is feeling unattractive she will also find YOU unattractive.
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If you request sex from a woman who KNOWS she’s been both acting unattractively and not showing that she’s attracted to you, she WILL lose respect for you.
There’s a very old cliché that goes: ‘Women need to feel intimacy before having sex – men need to have sex to feel intimacy’.
Clichés are born for a reason. There is a lot of truth to this. But you’re not a slave to it.
So what can you do?
In this video we discuss a change you can make in how you’re showing up in your relationship that can flip a switch and rekindle affection, trust and respect in your relationship.
You must choose a new principle for yourself and starting operating by it today. The new principle will mean taking sex off the table unless the feelings YOU require are present.
The new mindset requires you to raise your standards and expectations for HER to earn sexual intimacy with YOU. You are the prize here, not her. Scary stuff, huh? I know. That is a critical mind-shift.
It’s time you hit the reset button and starting acting like the prize you were before things got rough.
It’s time to remember and embrace the YOU who was irresistible to her in the beginning, before bad feelings and bad behavior became a problem.
Taking sex off the table until your conditions are met is essential.
These conditions are FIRST about meeting the expectations you have for yourself in regard to how you feel and how you treat her.
These conditions are ALSO about her choosing to meet your expectations for how you want to feel and how you expect to be treated.
This is called “setting your boundaries” – first for yourself, then for her.
This isn’t easy work. It’s a huge change for most of us. We can help you understand this and exactly HOW this is going to go for you.
You could carry on with how things have been, or you could make the decision to DO something different. Something new. I guarantee you’ll feel a whole lot better about yourself.
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Q: Why doesn’t my wife want sex after we’ve been fighting?
A: Because emotional disconnection kills attraction—she needs to feel safe, not pressured, before she can desire you again.
Q: Why does my wife pull away when I try to reconnect sexually?
A: To her, sex feels fake when the emotional foundation is cracked—she can’t open her body when her heart’s still guarded.
Q: What does it mean to “take sex off the table”?
A: It means you stop chasing intimacy as validation and start leading with self-respect, calm energy, and clear standards.
Q: How do I get my wife to desire me again after months of rejection?
A: Stop trying to earn her interest—become the grounded, self-assured man she once admired, and desire will start to return naturally.
Q: Why do women lose respect when men keep asking for sex?
A: Because neediness feels like weakness—real attraction grows when she senses that you’re happy, confident, and whole without her.
Q: How can I reset my relationship after years of frustration and rejection?
A: By raising your standards, focusing on your inner strength, and becoming the kind of man who doesn’t chase love—he inspires it.
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