How To Take Your Own Red Pill Not Someone Else’s
I wish I had a dollar for every time I’ve been asked, “Hey Steve, what do think about this Red Pill thing?”
So I made a video that explains my perspective on the many “Red Pill” channels on Youtube and make it extremely clear how the Goodguys2Greatmen brotherhood is different from all the other noise out there.
Listen to what I have to say in the video below and then you can read my summary of the key points below…
Red Pill ideology can be applied to practically anything. Just choose to believe in something that makes you feel more powerful and intelligent so you can demonize someone else, expose the “true” oppressor and justify your own unresolved fear and anger.
In other words…act like a victim with a high IQ.
While the idea is universal, the current Red Pill craze is mostly focused on heterosexual relationships. And it’s mostly about men who have become “enlightened” (the red pill vs. the blue pill) to “reality”.
Red Pill “reality” has many varieties, many guru’s, many rules and many followers. In simple terms, the idea is to use various facts about anthropological biology to justify a belief that women, in general, can’t be trusted.
Why?
Because, as the chosen belief goes, they have a biological imperative to continually seek to improve their situation, their status and the quality of their chosen mate.
And, if you’re not a “high quality man”, it’s only a matter of time before you find yourself holding a broken heart in one hand and divorce papers in the other while she skips away with a new boyfriend.
That’s the stuff cults are made of.
They feed on fears and insecurities by telling you exactly what to think and what to believe. They give you supporting manifestos and scary stories to keep your attention and help you justify your anxious fears and seething anger.
And they make you feel safe in your anger and resentment by creating huge tribes of men who want the same thing.
Yeah. More fun than a barrel of monkeys! (when toys were good)
Is Red Pill Theory Totally Wrong?
I’ve read TONS of Red Pill stuff…different tribes…different guru’s.
And SOME of it is useful.
To the extent that the information provides new perspective, fresh insight and fair understanding about how men and women operate in romantic and sexual relationships, it can help a healthy man develop healthy awareness, confidence and compassion for the women in his life.
But…this is rarely the goal of Red Pill ideology.
It’s mostly to help you protect yourself from getting screwed and your heart from getting broken by generalizing that most women will end up doing both. And they just can’t help it.
How is Goodguys2Greatmen Different?
Number 1: We don’t ever tell you WHAT to think or WHAT to
believe. We teach you HOW to think more clearly about your pain, anger and resentment. We teach you HOW to think about your thoughts and how your thinking about those thoughts are at the root of your pain, anger and resentment.
Number 2: We believe a happy, secure, confident man gets that way without knocking anyone else down. We believe that masculine strength and happiness comes from strong and happy masculine operating principles…not by being a victim of an imaginary oppressor.
Number 3: We believe most women and most men are good…trying to do their best. And when women and men become horrible assholes, it’s usually because of some darker crap they aren’t even aware of. And you must learn to have compassion for that – not fear.
Number 4: We help you shine a bright, warm light on your own dark crap. This dissolves your fear, anger and resentment. And we’re so good at doing this, we’ve created a tribe of men who have become creators of their own reality…not victims of someone else’s.
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“In any moment of decision, the best thing you can do is the right thing, the next best thing is the wrong thing, and the worst thing you can do is nothing.”
Q: What’s wrong with Red Pill ideology for men?
A: The Red Pill tells men what to think, not how to think. It feeds fear, resentment, and the illusion of control. Real masculine strength doesn’t come from blaming women — it comes from understanding your own thoughts, emotions, and choices. That’s how you stop being a victim of life and start leading it.
Q: Is there anything useful about the Red Pill movement?
A: Some Red Pill content can offer perspective on male-female dynamics — but most of it gets twisted by fear. Healthy awareness becomes toxic when it turns into cynicism. The goal isn’t to “protect yourself from women,” but to grow secure enough to love without fear of losing yourself.
Q: How is Goodguys2Greatmen different from Red Pill communities?
A: We don’t teach men to distrust women — we teach men to trust themselves. We don’t build strength through anger or superiority. We build it through self-awareness, emotional mastery, and compassion. GG2GM isn’t about winning over women; it’s about winning back your own calm, confidence, and clarity.
Q: Why do so many men get drawn into Red Pill thinking?
A: Because pain looks for certainty. When a man feels rejected, betrayed, or powerless, Red Pill ideology gives him simple villains and easy answers. But strength isn’t found in blame. It’s found in facing your fears, owning your part, and choosing growth over bitterness.
Q: What should I focus on instead of Red Pill rules?
A: Focus on your thinking. Learn how your thoughts create your emotions and reactions. When you master that, no ideology can hijack your peace. Real masculinity is about self-control, emotional grounding, and creating safety in yourself — not trying to decode or control women.
Q: How can I rebuild trust and connection after Red Pill burnout?
A: Start by softening. Let go of “us versus them.” Most women — like most men — are just doing their best with what they know. When you dissolve fear and resentment, compassion comes back. That’s when love, respect, and genuine attraction can grow again.
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