How To Stop Your Anxious Mind Running Your Life
Here’s one fact I know about a man’s sex life.
If he spends much time feeling anxious, agitated, irritated, overwhelmed or angry…he isn’t having much sex.
Why?
Simple. When we’re feeling those emotions we’re just not very sexy men. I know what you’re thinking. Sometimes sex is the BEST remedy for those ailments.
I agree! But if your mood is really shitty at the moment, self remedy is probably the only good option.
How do you get yourself out of a perpetual shitty mood and learn to relax and be your normal, sexy self again?
I have no idea how YOU do it. I only know about me and I’ll share that below.
Today I started getting anxious, pissed, overwhelmed and agitated over something I had no control over…
…a power outage that lasted about 2 hours.
I know, it’s not a big deal, but I had work to do. Internet was down – the phone was down and I even got kicked off a video call I was on.
Then I remembered an email I received a couple of days ago.
It was from a guy who listened to this Guided Meditation Audio I did a couple of years ago. I almost forgot about it.
He said he loved it and shared his experience listening to it. He said, “WOW, what a center I found, a place of calm.”
I thought, “Damn, why didn’t I think of that? And it’s my own damn meditation.”
As I explain in this video, one way to deal with a pattern of anxiety, agitation and anger is to imagine a better version of yourself.
Imagine being “that guy” you picture in your head.
That calm, cool, deliberate and amused man you’d love to be but keep sabotaging yourself.
It’s a battle we all fight, brother. Do it for you and nobody else!
Click this link to listen to: “Being That Guy” It’s about a personal story I’ll never forget.
Will meditation actually improve all your problems?
Probably not…not all by itself. But I can guarantee you that if you don’t learn how to relax – to be more calm and confident – and to stop REACTING to triggers instead of RESPONDING to them…sex will be very hard to come by.
First things first.
Get that under control and if your sex life doesn’t improve, shoot me an email to schedule a time to talk.
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As Teddy Roosevelt said:
“In any moment of decision, the best thing you can do is the right thing, the next best thing is the wrong thing, and the worst thing you can do is nothing.”
Q: Why does anxiety kill a man’s sex life?
A: Because anxious energy doesn’t feel safe or sexy. When your nervous system is on edge, your presence feels tense, not desirable. Calm, grounded men naturally create safety — and safety is what allows desire to flow. Relaxation is foreplay, brother.
Q: How can I get out of a bad mood and feel like myself again?
A: Stop trying to fix your mood — start noticing it. Step away from the problem, breathe, move your body, or meditate. When you slow down and return to your center, that confident, grounded man reappears. He was never gone — just buried under thought.
Q: Can meditation really improve my sex life?
A: Absolutely. Not because it’s mystical, but because it quiets your reactivity. A man who’s calm and present becomes magnetic. Meditation helps you master your emotional tempo — and in the bedroom, rhythm and relaxation matter more than technique.
Q: What’s the fastest way to stop being irritated all the time?
A: Quit fighting reality. Most irritation comes from trying to control what you can’t. When you practice acceptance — whether it’s a power outage or your partner’s mood — peace replaces pressure. From there, confidence and connection rebuild naturally.
Q: Why does my wife seem turned off when I’m stressed or angry?
A: Because tension in you translates as danger to her nervous system. Women open up when they feel emotionally safe. When you’re centered and self-regulated, she can relax too — and that’s when affection, laughter, and sex return.
Q: What does it mean to “be that guy”?
A: It means being the man who doesn’t react — he responds. He’s calm under pressure, amused by chaos, and confident in his own skin. “That guy” doesn’t chase approval or control; he radiates ease. That’s what makes him irresistible.
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