How To See The Subtle Signs That Your Wife Wants Sex
I spent a very rare 10 whole minutes on video today to talk about this topic.
Instead of making you read all about it, I recommend you just listen to the video. Don’t bother looking at my goofy face.
In this video I want to give you plain, straight talk about:
Why women don’t initiate sex very often and why you shouldn’t care
How women THINK they ARE initiating sex…and you don’t notice!
How to pick up on subtle signs she’s saying, “Hey, this might be a good time.”
Why being more assertive, confident and enthusiastic can be your game changer
What if you haven’t had sex in MONTHS or YEARS
How to build more attraction, desire and respect so you can actually begin initiating sex again
Why a healthy, happy, sexy YOU has to come before a healthy, happy, sexy marriage.
This video is for two types of men.
- Things are just okay but I’m just tired of always initiating and getting shot down. (Part I)
- Things haven’t been okay for a while and I’m not initiating at all because it’s been a LONG time since we’ve had sex. (Part II)
Enjoy. It’s just 10 minutes of me talking to you.
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Q: Why doesn’t my wife initiate sex anymore?
A: Most women think they already are. It’s often subtle—a look, a touch, a softened tone. But men miss it because they’re waiting for bold moves. When you relax and read her cues without pressure, you’ll start noticing she’s been inviting you all along.
Q: How can I tell when my wife actually wants sex?
A: It’s usually in her energy, not her words. When she’s playful, lingers near you, or makes gentle physical contact, she’s signaling openness. Don’t overthink it—respond confidently and lightly. Assertiveness with warmth is infinitely more attractive than hesitation or neediness.
Q: What should I do if I’m tired of always initiating sex?
A: Stop counting. Every time you measure who initiates, you add pressure. Focus on creating an atmosphere of safety, fun, and confidence. When you stop needing her response to validate you, her desire rises naturally. Women are drawn to relaxed, self-assured men.
Q: How can I rebuild sexual connection after months or years of no intimacy?
A: Start with you. Get healthy, confident, and calm again. When you feel good in your skin, you radiate desire instead of desperation. Reconnection begins long before the bedroom—through warmth, laughter, and emotional safety. That’s how attraction slowly returns.
Q: Why does she pull away when I try to be affectionate?
A: Because she feels the weight of your expectations. Affection laced with frustration or pressure doesn’t feel safe—it feels transactional. Give warmth without needing anything back. When she feels that freedom, her natural affection and desire re-emerge.
Q: How do I become more confident in bed and in life?
A: Confidence isn’t about being perfect—it’s about being relaxed in who you are. When you stop tolerating mediocrity in yourself, everything changes. Work on your physical health, mental clarity, and masculine leadership. A healthy, happy, sexy you always precedes a healthy, happy, sexy marriage.
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