How To Never Take Things Personally Again
Get this, from our trusty news media…
“Something ominous is happening to men in America. Everyone who pays attention knows that. What’s odd is how rarely you hear it publicly acknowledged. Our leaders pledge to create more opportunities for women and girls, whom they imply are failing. Men don’t need help. They’re the patriarchy. They’re fine. More than fine.”
The story goes on to give lots of statistics about the decline of men and our failures with education, addiction, punctuality, career success and generally being LESS MALE with dropping testosterone and sperm counts.
I knew it!! Those damn women must have spiked our Powerade sports drink with estrogen just so they can put a bow around their goal of world domination.
Those beeotches!!
Now what do we do? We’re pretty much screwed, right?
Just keep drinking their Kool-Aid and join a quilting club since it appears you’re totally incapable of work, responsibility and sperm production.
I’ll give you my two cents below and, as usual, I will be short, sweet and to the point. You’ll notice I’m not wringing my hands over this “news” and I don’t want you to either.
First, watch this short video to get a handle on the report.
That was pretty compelling, wasn’t it?
Something horrible is happening and, by golly, there MUST be someone to blame for this. It must be an “oppressor” somewhere who has stripped you of your power and personal agency to create your own reality.
This is a victim mindset and it can paralyze you.
It can stir you up into a hot mess and, eventually, a puddle of a man who can’t make a decision or take any responsibility. All you will be able to do is scour YouTube for more evidence that you’re screwed and go to coffee shops to discuss the hopelessness of it all.
Or…you can say, “Hmmm…I don’t think so, cupcake.“
That’s what the guy is doing below. He chose to stand outside the Drama Triangle.
When it comes to “bad news” (aka. Drama), most people jump into one of three roles.
The Fox News report is “bad news”. It’s drama – and that makes for compelling TV and higher ratings.
I don’t want you to take the bait.
I don’t want you to jump into the role of the helpless victim whose happiness, success and sperm count is in someone else’s hands. (bad visual, sorry)
I don’t want you to jump into the role of the persecutor who indicts everyone around them for being abusers, oppressors or robbers of your personal power.
And I don’t want you running around trying to rescue men with this “sky is falling” news thereby validating their sense of powerlessness and enabling their feeling of entitlement to victim status.
I want you to realize the POWER of “I don’t think so, cupcake.”
This is the power of deliberately standing OUTSIDE of the Drama Triangle and OWNING your part in creating a new reality around you and those you love.
In this video I will give you THREE tips to begin THIS WEEK to help resolve the “crisis of men in America” starting inside your own house.
How does a man LEARN this stuff and get really good at it?
There’s only one way.
It’s with men who have already learned this stuff and are actively practicing it on a daily basis. We call these guys “initiated men”.
They can be hard to find…as evidenced by our hand-wringing reporter above.
But you have special access to a powerful group of men who can help you get out of the Drama Triangle and STAY outside of it.
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As Teddy Roosevelt said:
“In any moment of decision, the best thing you can do is the right thing, the next best thing is the wrong thing, and the worst thing you can do is nothing.”
Q: Is there really a “crisis of men” happening today?
A: Sure, there are challenges — but not a crisis you can’t overcome. What’s really happening is a crisis of thinking. Men have forgotten how much power they actually have. You fix that not by blaming society, but by rebuilding your personal agency, purpose, and leadership.
Q: Why do so many men today feel powerless or stuck?
A: Because they’ve been conditioned to see themselves as victims. When you outsource your well-being to politics, partners, or circumstances, you lose your edge. Reclaiming it starts with responsibility — owning your choices, energy, and standards. That’s how real masculine confidence returns.
Q: How do I stay out of the “drama triangle” in my relationship?
A: Stop playing the roles of Victim, Persecutor, or Rescuer. Don’t beg for sympathy, attack others, or try to fix everyone. Stand outside the drama. Choose calm, clarity, and direction. When you lead yourself, chaos stops leading your life.
Q: How can I be more masculine without becoming aggressive or controlling?
A: Masculinity isn’t domination — it’s direction. Real strength comes from self-awareness, boundaries, humor, and grounded energy. You don’t need to overpower people to lead; you just need to stop apologizing for your power. Calm is your new form of dominance.
Q: How do I rebuild my confidence when the world feels against men?
A: Ignore the noise. Confidence isn’t built in the news cycle; it’s built in your daily habits. Train your mind, move your body, speak your truth, and surround yourself with strong men. When your mindset is right, no “crisis” can touch you.
Q: What’s the first step to becoming the man I want to be?
A: Decide. Not wish, not wait — decide. Stop scrolling for motivation and start acting on conviction. Join men who push you, call you out, and lift you up. Confidence grows fast when you’re in a tribe that expects your greatness.
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