How To Know If Your Marriage Is Worth The Effort
Men have a way of judging the quality of their day by what has happened in their day.
If “things are going our way”…it’s a “good day”. If they’re not…it’s not.
Sometimes we use our “feelings” or even our physical state to decide whether or not our day sucks.
And when it comes to your intimate relationship, a “good day” happens mostly when she’s happy, and more importantly, happy with you!
If a man waits for a “good day” based on his wife’s state of happiness with him, he will mostly likely have a very bad year.
And he will likely “think” his marriage sucks.
Watch my new video for a new perspective about shifting your perspective. This is a critical man skill, brother.
To be more childlike, you don’t have to give up being an adult. The fully integrated person is capable of being both an adult and a child simultaneously. Recapture the childlike feelings of wide-eyed excitement, spontaneous appreciation, cutting loose, and being full of awe and wonder at this magnificent universe.
~ Wayne Dyer
Your Assignment for the next 7 days…
- Be more child-like.
- See the humor in everything.
- Find the lightness in anything that appears to be dark.
- Don’t believe your own bullshit thoughts or your own silly feelings. Choose to see the softness and the pain in those who piss you off.
- Be kind to yourself and do something nice for just you.
And STOP this stuff…
- Stop looking for what’s wrong…find what’s right.
- Stop allowing sucky thoughts to create a sucky day.
- Stop assuming the worst in others…give automatic benefit of the doubt.
Here’s another way to not have a sucky day…ask for some support from someone who has walked in your shoes and found the way through the mess…
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As Teddy Roosevelt said:
“In any moment of decision, the best thing you can do is the right thing, the next best thing is the wrong thing, and the worst thing you can do is nothing.”
Q: How can I stop letting my wife’s mood control my day?
A: You start by deciding her happiness isn’t the scoreboard for your worth. Your peace comes from how you think, not how she feels. When you stop waiting for her approval to feel good, you become grounded, calm, and far more attractive.
Q: Why do small problems ruin my whole day?
A: Because you’ve trained your mind to judge your day by what happens instead of how you show up. Flip the switch: focus on humor, curiosity, and gratitude. You’ll find that lightness doesn’t come from life being easy—it comes from you being steady.
Q: How do I stay positive when everything feels heavy?
A: Be more child-like, not childish. Laugh more. Wonder more. Look for what’s right instead of what’s wrong. When you stop believing every stressful thought in your head, the heaviness lifts. Lightness isn’t a mood—it’s a practice.
Q: What does it mean to “not believe your own thoughts”?
A: It means realizing your feelings don’t prove truth—they reveal perspective. You can feel anxious and still choose calm. You can feel rejected and still choose confidence. Your thoughts aren’t the driver—you are. That’s emotional mastery.
Q: How do I keep a bad morning from turning into a bad day?
A: Stop labeling it a bad day. One tough moment doesn’t define the next twelve hours. Breathe, laugh, reset. Do one thing kind for yourself. That small act of self-leadership changes your energy faster than any external fix.
Q: What’s one habit that guarantees a better mindset?
A: Every morning, decide you’re responsible for your own peace. No matter what happens, no one else gets to drive your emotions. The more consistent you get at this, the lighter, freer, and more magnetic you become to everyone around you.
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