How to Know if You Should Stay…or Go…or Something Even Better!
Here’s the #1 stupidest reason people give for leaving their relationship.
“She/He Doesn’t Make Me Happy!”
Yeah, I know it’s a cliché we believe most women use to justify checking out of their relationship. But they’re not the only ones.
There is a chronic social disease among us where we’re being told sh*t like, “If You’re Not Happy With Your Relationship, Then End It”.
It’s become “in fashion” to be dependent on other people’s ability to make us feel good. It’s become a badge of honor to be a victim.
- Are you (or your wife) feeling unhappy with your marriage?
- Are you wondering if you might be happier somewhere or with someone else?
- Are you having more crappy days in your relationship than good days?
Here’s the uncomfortable truth.
If you answered “Yes” to any of those questions, it’s likely you are also quite unhappy with yourself. And you are in NO position to make any decisions about the fate of your relationship when at least HALF of your relationship is unhealthy.
Yes. I’m saying you’re not in a place to make ANY final decisions about the state of your relationship until you’ve reach a point of clear, calm, confident HAPPINESS within yourself.
Good decisions come from good thinking.
Good thinking comes from good information and education.
Good information and education comes from people who have already figured out the problem you’re facing now.
I explain this idea more in this video and also give you an invitation to joining me and coach Wayne Levine (Hold On To Your N.U.T.s) in a LIVE 4-session event called “Should I Stay or Should I Go?”
Whatever decision you can make from an unhappy state will be made BETTER from a HAPPY state.
I want you to promise me something.
Promise me you won’t make any rash, knee-jerk decisions if you’re unhappy.
Tell me you won’t make threats or ultimatums if you’re speaking from a place of fear, anger or anxiety.
There’s a much better way to move forward.
We are hosting FOUR ninety-minute, deep-dive conversations to help you become a clear-headed, confident, happy man.
We’re going to show you the way to making decisions from a place of strong, secure masculinity
Wayne Levine and I want to dive into the special circumstances and troubling emotions we know you’re facing. We want to help you create something BETTER than you have right now.
We’ve had this conversation HUNDREDS of times with men in many different situations. The variables you’re facing might include:
- My kids are so young!
- My wife is anxious/depressed/mentally ill!
- My wife is physically sick!
- I don’t have the income to support two separate places!
- My wife is seeing another man…or another woman!
- She says she “Just doesn’t know what she wants” and I feel totally stuck!
Again. Welcome to the club. You may be special, brother. But this story is NOT new.
The good news is you can gain clarity, courage, confidence and calmness in the face of what feels like a sh*t show.
You may have read a book we promote often to our community.
Hold On To Your N.U.T.s is an amazing book by men’s coach and author, Wayne Levine, that helps men establish their own values and personal sense of power and direction. Wayne teaches that your “non-negotiable, unalterable terms” (NUTs) are a critical part of becoming a strong, confident, self-respecting man. (you can get the audio version free with our program)
Our “Should You Stay or Should You Go” program is a LIVE, 4-session, deep dive coaching conversation and Q&A event where you will get what you need to get unstuck.
The worst feeling ever is to not know what you’re next decision should be. We will help you understand your situation more clearly and feel more confident in your decision making process.
There are many good reasons a man should STAY in his relationship.
And there are many good reasons a man should GO.
Click this LINK to get more information about this event that takes place on four Saturday mornings starting July 26th.
We want you to join us and to find the peace of mind you need to make the hardest decision of your life.
Before each session we will be asking you to submit any specific questions you want us to address during the live session.
After registration, you’ll receive an email with a few questions to help us know you, some details about your situation and your personal goals and desires.
Recordings will be provided if you miss a session.
Q: Why do I feel so unhappy in my marriage even though I love my wife?
A: Because unhappiness in marriage often starts with unhappiness in yourself. When your own peace and confidence are off, the relationship just mirrors that back. Get clear, calm, and grounded before judging your marriage.
Q: How do I know if I should stay or go when my relationship feels broken?
A: Don’t make that decision from fear or pain. Make it from peace. Every choice made from an unhappy state becomes clearer once you’re grounded and emotionally stable.
Q: What should I do when my wife says she’s unhappy and wants space?
A: Don’t panic or chase. Give her space while staying calm and centered. She doesn’t need rescuing—she needs to feel your grounded, masculine leadership.
Q: How can I make better decisions when I’m overwhelmed and anxious about my relationship?
A: Slow down and stop reacting. Good decisions come from good thinking, and that only happens when you’re calm, informed, and emotionally steady.
Q: What if my wife says she doesn’t know what she wants—how do I handle that?
A: Hold steady. Her confusion doesn’t have to become your chaos. Stay anchored in your own values and N.U.T.s—your non-negotiable, unalterable terms.
Q: How can I find happiness again when everything feels like a mess?
A: Start by separating your happiness from your relationship. Reconnect with your strength, breathe through the fear, and make decisions from calm masculine clarity.
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