How To Create More Intimacy Closeness & Affection With Your Wife
In 1998 I came up with an argument for 3 times more sex than I was having at the time.
I actually had “data”. I did some research. Then I presented my bullet-proof case for increasing the frequency of sex by a factor of three!
How do you think it went?
Yeah, not well.
Much to my surprise, “arguing for sex” wasn’t a thing. In fact, it’s hilarious when you think about it. It turns out the most un-sexy man in the world is the one who tries to “Perry Mason” himself into his wife’s pants.
That was a time when I thought every problem in my life could be resolved with logic, data, tactics and a really persuasive argument.
In other words, I spent most of my waking hours living from my head.
Nobody told me there was another way to live…and another important body part to use. I tell you which one in this video.
Why this matters to you
If you have been living from your head, this kind of stuff is going on for you:
- You may frequently find yourself in stupid and unnecessary arguments.
- You may feel easily agitated, frustrated, disappointed and critical.
- You compare yourself to others, you keep score and you’re overly competitive…even with your wife.
- People may respect you…but they don’t easily confide in you.
The Benefits of Living from Your Heart
When you learn to live from your heart, this kind of stuff starts going on for you:
- People not only respect you, they trust you and seek you out for your wisdom and support
- Your normal state is relaxed, engaged, curious and amused…no matter what is happening around you. And you like yourself in this state.
- Your decisions are made with more clarity, confidence and consideration. You inspire others to follow and people trust your leadership.
- You develop deeper connections in all of your relationships because your presence, patience and compassion are magnetic!
How do you learn this stuff? Funny you should ask.
Join our community, work with Dan, I or one of our coaches and learn how to bring “open hearted leadership” into your relationship.
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You will learn with others how to be the most open-hearted and most effective version of YOU.
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As Teddy Roosevelt said:
“In any moment of decision, the best thing you can do is the right thing, the next best thing is the wrong thing, and the worst thing you can do is nothing.”
Q: Why doesn’t logic or persuasion work to get more sex in marriage?
A: Because desire isn’t logical—it’s emotional. You can’t argue your way into her body; you have to lead her back to safety, curiosity, and connection through presence, not proof.
Q: What does it mean to stop living from your head and start living from your heart?
A: It means dropping the constant analysis and leading with calm confidence, empathy, and humor. When your energy shifts from control to connection, she feels it instantly.
Q: Why do I keep getting into arguments with my wife over small things?
A: Because you’re trying to win instead of connect. Living from your head makes you defensive; living from your heart makes you grounded, patient, and magnetic again.
Q: How can I make my wife feel more attracted and open with me?
A: By relaxing into who you are. When you’re engaged, curious, and comfortable in your own skin, she feels safe enough to soften. Emotional leadership always precedes physical intimacy.
Q: What changes when a man learns to live from his heart instead of his ego?
A: Everything. People trust him more. His wife respects him more. His confidence becomes effortless—and his presence feels calm, playful, and deeply masculine.
Q: How do I start becoming a more open-hearted, grounded man?
A: Get support. Learn to quiet your head, trust your intuition, and lead with self-respect. That’s what we teach men—to rebuild intimacy by mastering their inside game.
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