How To Be More Confident With Your Wife?
Before I tell you how to be more confident with your wife, I want to talk about happiness. No matter what you’re going through at this moment, I wish you the strength, faith and clarity to know…above anything else…that happiness is within you.
In other words, I wish you to find your “Inherent Happiness”. This is yours for the taking and is not found anywhere OUTSIDE of you.
I want you to have the self-awarded gift of self-respect and self-reliance which forms the foundation of your “inherent happiness”.
With that in mind, I also want to remind you that your happiness will not be found on the All-You-Can-Eat Self-Help Buffet.
Don’t think for a second that I don’t love a good book, video, podcast or 4-day self-help seminar.
In fact, I assign a LOT of that stuff in my one-on-one coaching program.
Gorging On Books & Videos About How You Become Confident With Your Wife Eventually Has Diminishing Returns
It’s like when I used to practice juggling a soccer ball for hours. I could go longer than anyone. I could balance the ball on my head while running. At first glance you would think I was a good player.
Early in my soccer development I spent more time ALONE than actually PLAYING THE FREAKING GAME! And it showed on the field. My skills had never been challenged. My tricks never tested.
It wasn’t until I played hard with other guys that I learned what the game was all about. I couldn’t just have good skills. I needed teammates I could trust to challenge me.
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I needed good INSTINCTS to fuel my RESPONSES
And instincts are created in the heat of the battle by being tested over and over again.
The moral of the story when it comes to self-help is that we MUST GET ON THE FIELD at some point. If you don’t, you’re likely to just buy another damn book that says pretty much what the last one did.
Watch this video for more about that.
How to Get More Confidence, Respect and Swagger (hint: quit the self-help crap)
Do You Have Good INSTINCTS Fueling Your RESPONSES When It Comes to Your Relationships?
- Are you caught off-guard and on your heels when facing conflict?
- Do you feel like a deer in the headlights when challenged on your behaviors and beliefs?
- Do you lose all your mojo when it comes to actually STATING what you want and what you don’t want?
- Would you rather punch a hole in the wall when criticized than calmly step into the emotional storm with a calm swagger of curiosity?
If you answered YES to any one of those questions, I’m betting you’re not spending enough time with the right men.
You’re not sharpening your sense of self-respect and you’re not becoming CLEAR about what you stand for or what you want.
This is done ON THE FIELD with other men.
You simply cannot do this in the privacy of your own mind and in your own self-help library.
Scary as hell, isn’t it? I KNOW!
Even men who have been in my community for years sometimes “lurk” in the background of a live meeting or Facebook group. They quietly watch and listen to the perils and fears of others without getting on the field. It’s messy out there, I know.
But you will never feel more clear – more confident – more COURAGEOUS as when you finally allow yourself to be seen and heard by those you can trust. And guess what? They are craving to be seen and heard by YOU as well.
Are You Ready To Come Off The Bench And Add Some Gasoline to Your Self-Help Fire?
There is no better way than joining our community of great men.
What is so “great” about them?
1. They have gotten on the field of brotherhood and decided to start practicing the fine art of vulnerability.
2. They are learning the subtle art of listening.
3. They are developing astonishingly RARE connections with other men who want exactly what they want from life.
4. And they are getting it!
Developing strong INSTINCTS is how men develop NATURALLY confident responses to whatever relationships throw at him. Practice what you’ve learned under the mentorship of men who aren’t afraid to call your bullshit. When you shoot yourself in the foot, these men re-direct you. When you have a victory, these men celebrate with you. I promise you’ll find the happiness and courage you had inside you all along. Having male comrades is more affective then reading another self-help book.
We want you in the game with us. Seriously. We do.
Ask for a deep-dive personal consultation to FEEL the power of our coaching process. You will wonder why you’ve been talking to therapists. (We hear that all the time)
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Q: How do I actually become more confident with my wife instead of just reading about it?
A: Confidence comes from testing yourself in real situations—not consuming more content. Books and videos can spark awareness, but instincts, clarity, and courage are built “on the field” with other men who challenge you, call your bluff, and sharpen your backbone. Confidence grows through practice, not theory.
Q: Why doesn’t self-help work anymore, even though I’ve consumed so much of it?
A: Because self-help without real-life reps becomes mental entertainment. You can juggle every metaphorical soccer ball in the world, but if you avoid the field, you never develop instincts. At some point, the next book won’t move the needle—brotherhood will. You need men who push you, not more pages that comfort you.
Q: Why do I freeze, panic, or lose my mojo when my wife challenges me?
A: Because you haven’t trained your emotional instincts. You don’t build calm strength in your head—you build it by being tested, corrected, and sharpened in the company of grounded men. When you learn to respond instead of react, conflict stops feeling like a threat and starts feeling like leadership practice.
Q: How do I stop feeling overwhelmed, criticized, or on my heels in my marriage?
A: You develop clarity about who you are and what you stand for. Most men don’t struggle with communication—they struggle with identity. When you get clear on what you want, what you won’t tolerate, and what you value, your nervous system calms down. Confidence becomes the natural byproduct of clarity.
Q: Why is being part of a men’s community more effective than doing the work alone?
A: Because isolation keeps you safe but stagnant. Men grow fastest when they’re seen, heard, challenged, and supported by other strong men. Brotherhood gives you a mirror, a mentor, and a measuring stick. It builds confidence the same way we build muscle—by leaning into resistance.
Q: How do I know when I’m ready to stop “lurking” and finally get on the field?
A: When you’re tired of feeling like the same man reading the same books having the same problems. When you want clarity instead of confusion. When you want confidence instead of anxiety. When pretending you’re “fine” costs more than facing the truth. That’s when you’re ready—and that moment is usually right now.
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