How To Avoid Making This Mistake Which Turns Off Your Wife
It’s messy, bloody, greasy and gooey.
It’s done with your bare hands with a bunch of runny ingredients and then the quagmire of breadcrumbs.
Then you shape it up just right and shove the gelatinous pink loaf into the oven.
Good thing it looks pretty good when it’s all done, otherwise, meatloaf wouldn’t have many friends.
What’s this got to do with your sex life you ask?
EVERY SINGLE MAN I WORK WITH WANTS TO SHOW HIS WOMAN HIS MEATLOAF!!
And I immediately call him off.
I save him from his own silly notions that showing his meatloaf to her is a good thing. It’s not.
I’m going to make you watch this video to find out exactly what I’m talking about.
Why She Doesn’t Want to Hear About Your Meatloaf
Bottom Line: Talk is cheap.
I know, I know. When a man starts to get involved in his own personal development he gets excited. For the first time he has something really emotional to talk about!
He’s been reading books, listening to podcasts and binge watching Goodguys2Greatmen videos every time he starts to feel down.
He wants to tell his wife the following things:
- “You won’t believe what I learned in this book!”
- “I can’t believe what an ass I’ve been!”
- “I’m so sorry I didn’t know this stuff before!”
- “I think we’re going to be better now that I’m really getting my shit together!”
- Last but not least, “Can’t you already SEE the great changes I’ve been making??!!”
Again, talk is cheap and she knows it. All she will ever trust is action. Consistent action. Outcome independent action.
“You simply cannot talk yourself out of a situation you behaved yourself into.”
~ Stephen Covey
So where does an excited, motivated, shot-in-the-ass kind of guy go to talk about his meatloaf?
Other men. Other men like you.
Could be your grandfather, best friend, uncle, dad or even your brother-in-law.
Point is, FIND OTHER MEN to share your thoughts, feelings and journey with. Give your wife the time and space to simply experience the results of your work. That’s what she’ll believe.
I didn’t know this until I was 50 years old. I thought I could dump my emotional baggage and excitement on anyone.
Yeah…no. It doesn’t work that way. Sure, in a very healthy, secure relationship it’s important to share and be vulnerable (to an extent).
But if you’re reading this…that ain’t you right now, is it?
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Q: Why doesn’t my wife care that I’m changing?
A: Because talk doesn’t prove transformation—behavior does. She’s not listening for your words; she’s watching for consistency. Rebuilding trust and attraction happens when you stop explaining your growth and start living it. Let your actions quietly prove what your mouth used to promise.
Q: How do I share my personal growth without pushing her away?
A: Don’t make her your emotional sounding board. Most women don’t want to hear about your “meatloaf”—they want to taste it. Share your excitement and struggles with other men who get it. Let her experience the results of your growth naturally, without pressure or performance.
Q: What should I do when I want to tell my wife how much I’ve changed?
A: Hold it. Instead of saying, “Look how different I am,” be different. Clean energy speaks louder than words. A calm, self-led man who doesn’t need validation is far more attractive than one trying to prove he’s fixed. Let her notice on her own.
Q: Why doesn’t talking about my feelings make things better?
A: Because in a tense or disconnected marriage, over-talking often sounds like manipulation. She doesn’t need more words—she needs to feel your grounded presence. Less explaining, more embodying. Silence, consistency, and confidence are what rebuild emotional safety, not emotional dumping.
Q: Who should I talk to when I’m struggling in my marriage?
A: Other men who are walking the same road. You need masculine feedback, not emotional reassurance. That’s why men’s groups like the GG2GM Roundtable exist—to give you a safe place to vent, learn, and grow without burdening your wife with your process.
Q: How can I rebuild intimacy in a sexless marriage without talking it to death?
A: Stop trying to convince her. Attraction doesn’t come from conversation—it comes from presence, humor, calm confidence, and leadership. When you become a man who feels good in his own skin again, she’ll sense it. Rebuilding intimacy starts when you stop needing her reaction to define your progress.
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