How Do I Stop Being Scared Of Getting Divorced?
If you want to stop being scared of getting divorced here’s some great advice to help you immediately stop those anxious, fearful feelings taking over again.
I talk to men experiencing scared, emasculated, desperate and crushed emotions every day. Our conversations all start with a discussion of “what are you feeling now?”.
It’s important you know how much we care about your feelings and how much we empathize with those fearful thoughts. But after about 30 minutes into a consultation call you will hear something very strange.
I’m not really interested in your “feelings”.
Let me explain.
Yes, I know being a man is tough. Being in a relationship is tough.
But all of it is tougher when you’re being yanked around by your feelings on a daily basis.
Part of being a mature, confident and clear headed man is knowing that while your “feelings” are normal and healthy, they are NOT your reality.
Becoming a master of your emotional world demands that you change your relationship with your “feelings”. This means you’re going to have to change your relationship with your “thoughts”.
Here’s the problem.
Most Insecure, Nervous And Unhappy People Have A Habit Of “Living The Feeling Of Their Thinking”
What’s that mean?
It means they allow their random thoughts, beliefs and projections to drive an endless parade of negative emotions.
They feel like they are a passenger in a roller coaster of “feeling” and have no particular agency or responsibility for changing the thinking at the root of their constant anxious, angry and/or unhappy reactions to life.
Is this you? Who else do you know who might be living this reality?
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I know. This may sound strange to you.
But this wisdom is thousands of years old!
The most confident, calm, wise, clear-headed and HAPPY people in the world are those who have come to terms with their own ability – and responsibility – for changing the WAY THEY THINK about the cards they are dealt every day.
This is why I don’t really want to “talk about your feelings”.
I want to talk about your THINKING!
So I will…in this video.
Why I Don’t Want to Talk About Your “Feelings”
Stop Being Scared Of Divorce By Thinking Something NEW
“The greatest weapon against stress is our ability to choose one thought over another.” ~ Sir William Jones
We have dozens of complimentary consultations every month with men who have been afraid of what they are FEELING.
They use words like lonely, scared, rejected, dismissed, ignored, replaced, inadequate, frustrated, uncertain and confused.
We will spend one to two hours speaking with you to help you immediately relax and focus. We demonstrate the power of having a wise mentor in your corner to challenge your emotional roller coaster and to teach you how to do a better job of thinking about your thinking.
This is our favorite reaction.
“Dude, I just got more out of this call than I’ve gotten from 3 years of freakin’ therapy!! Why isn’t anyone telling men this stuff?!”
What stuff?
1. We talk about what’s really happening with your marriage, wife and sex life.
2. We tell you things about being a man your father never told you…and how you’ve been avoiding the most powerful part of being a man.
3. We take you through an exercise to experience the thrill of changing your perspective and HOW YOU’RE THINKING at this very moment.
That’s when you immediately FEEL something different than just an hour earlier.
Yeah. I know. Sounds crazy. I love this stuff and it’s why I can’t stop writing and talking about it. I want that for you too, brother.
Think about it. Perhaps the most courageous, decisive and masculine thing you can do right now is ask for a chat.
When a relationship gets rocky, there’s always the initial fear. Change is scary! Something is wrong though when fear continues on and on. You don’t like it and neither does she. Stop being scared of divorce by getting a new perspective to challenge the stories in your head. Strong men ask for help. Everyone else sits around waiting for something to change.
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Q: Why am I so scared of getting divorced and how do I stop this anxiety right now?
A: You’re scared because you’re living “the feeling of your thinking.” Your mind is running worst-case stories about divorce, rejection, being replaced. The fear feels real, so your body freaks out. The way out is not fixing the marriage in 10 minutes — it’s choosing a different thought. Calm thinking creates calm feelings.
Q: How do I stop letting my emotions control me in my relationship?
A: You stop treating feelings like truth. Feeling lonely, rejected, or inadequate doesn’t mean you’re actually unwanted — it means your thinking in that moment is insecure and panicked. A mature, confident man learns to pause, examine the story, and choose a stronger thought instead of being yanked around by fear.
Q: What to do when my wife is pulling away and I feel desperate, weak, or emasculated?
A: First, breathe. Desperation never creates attraction. You don’t fix anything by begging for reassurance. You fix it by getting clear-headed. Ask yourself: “What story am I running right now?” Then challenge it. Strong, grounded presence comes from you managing your thinking — not trying to manage her.
Q: Why do you say you don’t want to talk about my “feelings”?
A: Because talking about feelings keeps you in the spin. You’ve already told yourself you’re scared, rejected, not enough. Repeating it just reinforces the panic. I want to talk about your thinking — the meanings you’re attaching to every text, silence, and look. Change the meaning, and the emotional storm calms fast.
Q: How do I become that calm, confident man again instead of this anxious version of me?
A: You become him the moment you take responsibility for how you think. The most confident men aren’t fearless — they just refuse to let fear run the narrative. They challenge the story in their head, they get perspective, and they ask for help instead of sitting alone waiting for things to magically change.
Q: What should I do when I feel like I’m about to lose my marriage?
A: Do not isolate. This is where most men mess up. Get in a real conversation with someone who will challenge your emotional roller coaster, not feed it. You don’t need three years of therapy to take the edge off your panic. You need someone to interrupt your thinking and show you a new perspective — now.
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