For Men How To Find Your Life Purpose
Should you change job? Change career? Find a mission? Follow your “passion”? Maybe you’re wondering whether to stay in your marriage or leave. This article explains how to find your life purpose by finding the right focus.
Here’s what I know for sure.
If you believe for one second that “changing” something outside of you is going to change your general sense of happiness, satisfaction or well-being then you’re wasting a crap load of time.
Stop thinking that way. Stop thinking that if you “could only” do or have something new that your insides will magically change.
Your “insides” (happiness, satisfaction and well-being) are NOT driven by what you do or what you have.
There’s something much more important and something MUCH more in your control than you think.
The dirty little secret held by men who are generally happy, secure, content and confident is this.
THEY ARE SIMPLY GOOD AT LIVIN’.
Being “good at livin’ ” is a state of BEING…not doing and not having.
Being “good at livin’ ” is a direct result of how we choose to be and THINK…right now.
This means we’re not dreading our past mistakes and we’re not fearing our future predicaments.
A Man’s Purpose In Life Finds Him, Not The Other Way Around
The best way to “find your life purpose” is to let it find YOU when you are living in the right now…consistently…every single day. When you learn to do this, passion finds YOU. Purpose finds YOU.
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This means you must get better at living in the NOW. Today. In the next hours between now and bedtime. (you get a blank slate in the morning!)
I know how the uncertainty of a woman’s love can catapult you into a storm of future fears.
I know how the uncertainty of the economy and a pandemic can make you feel powerless and stuck.
Uncertainty:
- Seems to make men shift into neutral and idle their engine
- Makes us tentative, indecisive and wishy-washy
- Can make us feel so weak that we can’t stand ourselves
In this really short video, I want to give you some encouragement about your perceived uncertainties.
How to Know Your Purpose as a Man
When you dance, your purpose is not to get to a certain place on the floor. It’s to enjoy each step along the way. ~ Wayne Dyer
Dancing is another way of saying “Livin’ “.
Even in a difficult marriage, job market or global pandemic, a man needs to focus on enjoying each step.
His MISSION is simply to get better at dancing.
How To Start Livin’
I recently read Greenlights by Matthew McConaughey. In his Texas drawl, he writes about what “Livin’ ” (no G at the end!) means to him.
It helped clarify some things for me.
Livin’ is about:
- What you say YES to with unabashed enthusiasm
- What you say NO to without one damn apology
- How you choose to treat others and the treatment you choose to accept from others
- Having a certain kind of HOPE that tells you in no uncertain terms that everything is okay and WILL BE OKAY
- Knowing you are okay at this moment and all things that haven’t happened yet will serve you in some special way
- A specific faith that things will work out in a way that will make sense…even if it isn’t exactly your preference
The Goodguys2Greatmen community was created for ONE REASON.
That is to give men a safe place to discover HOW TO LIVE BETTER.
We teach you the “dance steps” required for being a self-reliant, self-confident, self-respecting and self-approving MAN.
We have the TRIBE of the most initiated, intelligent and passionate men on the planet.
We’re here for you when you’re ready to find your tribe and get a lot better at “Livin’ ” on a daily basis…not matter what chaos or drama is swirling around you.
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A frantic man who’s trying to change everything around him won’t find happiness. A man’s purpose in life is a target. He is the arrow. The target draws the arrow when he gets good at “livin'”. Relax & trust the process.
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Q: How do I know if changing my job, marriage, or lifestyle will actually make me happier?
A: You won’t. Because external changes don’t create internal peace. Happiness, confidence, and fulfillment aren’t locations—they’re a state of being. A calm, grounded man doesn’t wait for circumstances to fix him. He learns how to think clearly, stay present, and live well now, not “when things get better.”
Q: How do I find my life purpose when everything feels uncertain or unstable?
A: You stop trying to “find” anything. Purpose isn’t hunted down—it emerges when you learn how to live fully in the present. When you stop fearing the future, stop replaying the past, and start Livin’—with intention, clarity, and presence—your mission reveals itself. Purpose finds the man who is grounded enough to receive it.
Q: Should I stay in my marriage or leave if things feel hopeless?
A: Don’t make a permanent decision from a temporary emotional storm. Before you decide anything about your marriage, get yourself solid. A man who is calm, clear, and centered makes better choices. A fearful, frantic man destroys what’s left. Get good at “Livin’” first—then you’ll know what the right path looks like.
Q: Why does uncertainty make me feel stuck, scared, or weak?
A: Because most men were never taught how to handle uncertainty without trying to control everything around them. Uncertainty isn’t the enemy—it’s the training ground. When you choose your emotional weather, when you respond instead of react, uncertainty becomes fuel for strength instead of a trigger for panic.
Q: What does it actually mean to be “good at livin’” as a man?
A: It means you stop outsourcing your happiness. You say YES to what energizes you and NO to what drains you. You stop apologizing for wanting more. You trust that you’re okay in this moment—even if life looks messy. A man who is good at livin’ walks with hope, clarity, and purpose long before those things arrive.
Q: How do I start living in the present instead of obsessing over the past or fearing the future?
A: Start small. Start today. Focus on how you want to be between now and bedtime. That’s it. No life overhaul. Just a conscious shift in who you’re being—your mood, your choices, your personal integrity. When you stack enough days like that together, purpose, passion, and confidence start hunting you down.
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