Do You Feel “Addicted” to Your Wife? Stop It.
There’s this feeling us guys can get when we’re with just the right woman.
I know you know what I’m talking about here.
And once you’ve been bitten by this feeling, a lifelong addiction can set in if you’re not careful. And most of us aren’t very careful.
I’m betting you have an old memory of the first girl in your life who made you feel this way. The way she looked, sounded and smelled is other worldly.
Her eyes…her lips… her skin, her hair and her style captivates us like a drug that keeps our brains in a fog.
And when she finally touches us…touches our hearts…touches our body or just gives us touching words of affection and appreciation…
Game over.
And then we get married. And it starts all over again.
And this is the problem.
No matter how much we “mature”, most of us still harbor that yearning for that feeling of the early years. It’s this adolescent yearning that can creep into the daily behavior of any man.
Hell, I’m 63 now and my inner, heart broken 17-old-year old can still see, hear and smell my first romantic love…let’s call her “Lisa”.
I tell you more about her in this video.
And below, I’ll tell you why you may need to go to “rehab”.
Put your hand on a hot stove for a minute and it seems like an hour. Sit with a pretty girl for an hour, and it seems like a minute. – Albert Einstein
Even Einstein knew the cosmic force of a woman’s ability to bend space and time for a man.
Why is this important for you?
Because you’re on this email list for a reason and that reason usually involves ONE WOMAN in your life who has been bending space and time.
In other words, you’ve experienced the discomfort of disconnection, lost affection and/or the prospect of losing the “best thing you’ve ever had in your life!”.
That’s how many men share their deepest fears with me.
The coaching process for men who suffer from this “addiction related anxiety” involves some tough love…and a gentle hand.
You may need a “firm, but fair” conversation with a man who has been in your shoes before.
We can’t tell you to just STOP IT! That never works.
You have to dig deeper to understand WHY so many otherwise smart and successful men fall to pieces at the hand of an unhappy woman.
And when you understand how our own lack of self-respect, worthiness and confidence is the SOURCE of our pain, we can start changing our relationship to something better.
When you begin to calm the fear, anger and jealousy in your brain, you can start being the calm, steady, strong man she wants to live with.
Don’t get me wrong here.
Yes, she WANTS you to love her and she WANTS you to want her.
But, she doesn’t want your attraction and desire for her to feel overwhelming, smothering or controlling.
Those 3 words are the most common ones we hear from women who claim to have “lost the spark” or “love you, but don’t feel in love anymore.”
Does it sound like I’ve been hiding under your bed?
I don’t need to. I have data.
Data point #1 is me. I AM you. And after 11 years of speaking to carbon copies of myself, I know your story too.
The bad news is that you’re a cliché. And that’s good news. We know what to do with that!
The best way to stop being a cliché is to start doing things that most people never do.
- Most people never ask for help
- Most people never look inward for answers.
- Most people deny having any responsibility for what they have helped to create.
Don’t be like most people. Let’s find a way for you to be the OPPOSITE of a cliché.
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If you’re tired of being a cliché, here are some very simple next steps.
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As Teddy Roosevelt said:
“In any moment of decision, the best thing you can do is the right thing, the next best thing is the wrong thing, and the worst thing you can do is nothing.”
Q: Why do I feel addicted to my wife or girlfriend even when I’m unhappy?
A: Because you’re hooked on the emotional high she once gave you. That feeling isn’t love—it’s dependence. You’ll get your power back the moment you stop chasing it.
Q: What causes men to lose themselves in a woman’s approval?
A: We confuse validation with connection. When you base your worth on her affection, you hand her the keys to your emotional stability—and she stops trusting your strength.
Q: How can I stop feeling desperate for her love and attention?
A: You calm the addiction by rebuilding self-respect. When you start living from peace instead of panic, her reactions lose power—and attraction naturally returns.
Q: Why do women pull away when a man becomes too focused on them?
A: Because smothering energy feels like pressure, not love. Desire is magnetic when it’s free, not when it’s fueled by fear of losing her.
Q: What’s the difference between healthy desire and emotional neediness?
A: Healthy desire says “I want you.” Neediness says “I need you to be okay.” One attracts her; the other repels her. Strength always comes from wholeness, not hunger.
Q: How do I break the cycle of fear, jealousy, and overthinking?
A: By learning to love without losing yourself. When you own your value, face your fears, and stop chasing, you become the man she can trust again—or the one who walks away free.
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