The BEST Way to Show Her “Thanks” – Change Your False Beliefs!
There is nothing more insidious in a relationship than the feelings of judgment, disapproval, and resentment.
These feelings slowly decay trust and undermine respect
They will ultimately destroy your relationship.
Those feelings often come from false beliefs we’ve been harboring for a long time.
Some of these beliefs are stupid stereotypes we’ve chosen to project onto our partner. We laugh about them with our friends.
Some of them have some basis in fact and experience.
But the most hurtful and unappreciative energy we can give to each other is constantly thinking, talking, and behaving as if these are ALWAYS true.
The single best way to reverse this negative energy and become ATTRACTIVE again is to fill in this diagram with new beliefs. Loving beliefs!
If you can replace the negative thoughts in this diagram with new, absolutely TRUE beliefs about the woman you love, I promise everything will start changing today.
There is a male version of this available for the ladies and it’s not pretty either. If anyone wants that one, here is the link to the Male Brain.
I call this the process of “Giving Her (or him) a Reputation to Live Up To”.
When you think, speak, and act toward someone with these new beliefs in your heart, THEY will suddenly start responding to the new vote of confidence.
This is love in action. Show your gratitude for who she is – just as she is – and what she represents to you each day.
Save this image and print it off.
Then take a pen and cross through EACH negative belief and replace it with one TRUE FACT about your loved wife or girlfriend.
Fill out the blanks with positive, affirming beliefs YOU hold about HER.
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Make it something only YOU could know. Make some of them funny. For example, call a small dot in her brain “Your ability to resist scratching the ear of every dog you see.”
You get the idea. Then what?
Then sit privately with her and share them as if you do this every day. Explain why you crossed out all the crap and why you wrote what you did. Tell her that THIS is how you see HER brain. Tell them how grateful you are to have them in your life.
Then kiss her and leave her with it. This has no strings. No expectations. No planned outcome.
Enjoy giving it just because you want to.
It’s a Thanksgiving gift.
I did this today for my lady and found myself laughing. It’s a little scary. It’s emotional too.
It’s supposed to be. You’re a loving, passionate human being.
You can do this. Do NOT fear the reaction. I know what you may be thinking.
It sure would be nice if SHE would do this for you, huh? It may or may not happen. Who cares?
Remember, it’s a gift without conditions. It’s what you do.
Respond below if you care to share how it felt and how she/he took it. It will help everyone to hear your story.
Getting comfortable with unconditional giving is a life skill every one us needs to practice!
Q: Why do judgment and resentment destroy attraction in a relationship?
A: Because they slowly rot the foundation. Judgment tells her she’s not enough. Resentment tells her she’s a burden. Disapproval tells her she can’t win. No woman stays attracted to a man who carries that energy. It suffocates trust, respect, and desire until nothing is left.
Q: Where do these negative beliefs about my partner even come from?
A: Most come from old stories, insecurities, stereotypes, and half-truths we’ve carried for years. Some come from real hurts. But the problem is living as if those beliefs are always true. That mindset keeps you stuck in a version of her that no longer exists—and kills connection.
Q: How do I actually replace negative beliefs with positive ones?
A: By choosing new, loving truths on purpose. You cross out every false belief you’ve been holding and replace it with something REAL—something only you could know about her. Humor helps. Specificity helps. Truth helps most. These new beliefs change the way she feels in your presence.
Q: Why would this make me more attractive to her?
A: Because attraction is emotional, not logical. When she feels seen, appreciated, safe, and honored, she relaxes. When she relaxes, she reconnects. When she reconnects, she becomes receptive again. You can’t talk your way back into attraction—but you can believe your way back into it.
Q: What if she doesn’t do the same thing for me?
A: That’s not the point. This exercise isn’t a trade. It’s a gift. A man who gives with no strings is powerful. Your beliefs about her aren’t a strategy to get something—they’re a declaration of who you choose to be. That’s what makes the shift real and lasting.
Q: Why should I share these new beliefs with her? It feels awkward.
A: Because authenticity is vulnerable—and vulnerability is connection. When you calmly and confidently reveal the new way you see her, you create a soft landing place for both of you. You’re modeling emotional leadership. And emotional leadership is one of the sexiest things a man can offer.
Q: How do I know this will make anything better?
A: Because when you give someone a reputation to live up to—one rooted in truth, kindness, and respect—they can feel it. People rise to the level of the belief held about them. Change the belief, change the energy. Change the energy, change the relationship.
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