How To Be OK When Your Marriage Is In Crisis
I’m going to teach you the simplest, most powerful and the most elusive coaching tip I’ve ever learned.
It’s SIMPLE because it requires no study, no reading, no exercise and no money.
It’s POWERFUL because it’s the most effective way to quickly reduce anxiety and fear without using drugs.
And it’s ELUSIVE because when you watch this 10-minute video you may get a huge AH-HA!! And then you’ll lose it just as quickly.
In fact, not everyone who watches this video is going to get it. It will seem TOO simple. Or you might think, “Yeah, that doesn’t work for me.”
This simple coaching tip is actually part of the more advanced portion of our coaching process. You’ve got to be ready for this. And your mind needs to be open to believing something new.
Most men contact me for IMMEDIATE help with their crisis of confidence, confusion, anxiety, sadness, uncertainty and/or fear.
I’m taking a chance with this video that I might just help you – if you’re ready – to accept a new way of thinking about your thoughts.
“Once we become aware of the fact that we are only feeling what we’re thinking and that thinking is the root cause of our unpleasant experience, we see it for what it truly is. Then we allow it to settle by giving it space, and slowly we will see how we begin to have a clear mind again.” ~ Joseph Nguyen, Don’t Believe Everything You Think
The Goodguys2Greatmen coaching process goes much deeper than just problem solving.
We know the changes you want right now can’t come from problem solving.
We also know that the amazing life you may have imagined for your future will be impossible with the thinking that got you here.
In fact, everything you’ve learned up to this point is exactly what will keep you from getting where you want to go.
Stop Wasting Time
Stop wasting time trying to fix your life with the same thinking that created it.
If you want the next decade to be your best decade ever, you have to actually THINK DIFFERENTLY.
And that’s exactly what we do for men.
And…we’re really, really good at it.
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As Teddy Roosevelt said:
“In any moment of decision, the best thing you can do is the right thing, the next best thing is the wrong thing, and the worst thing you can do is nothing.”
Q: How do I stop feeling anxious or overwhelmed so quickly?
A: Anxiety isn’t caused by your situation—it’s caused by your thinking about it. The moment you see that, you create space between you and the storm. Calm doesn’t come from control; it comes from awareness. That shift can happen in seconds.
Q: Why doesn’t problem-solving fix my stress or marriage issues?
A: Because your thinking creates the problem in the first place. You can’t outthink anxious thoughts with more anxious thinking. You need to step back, see the illusion for what it is, and let your mind settle. Clarity lives in quiet, not in control.
Q: What does “you only feel what you think” really mean?
A: It means your emotions are never coming from your wife, job, or past—they’re coming from the thoughts you’re believing in this moment. The instant you stop chasing every thought as truth, you start to experience peace again.
Q: How can I calm my mind without meditation or therapy?
A: Just notice what’s happening inside your head without trying to fix it. Give your thoughts space to settle like snow in a shaken globe. You don’t need a technique—you just need to stop fighting your own mind.
Q: Why do I keep falling back into fear even after I feel calm?
A: Because insight fades when we go back to old habits of overthinking. It’s not failure—it’s just forgetting. Each time you notice the pattern and return to awareness, you’re training your mind to rest in peace instead of panic.
Q: What’s the secret to thinking differently and feeling more confident?
A: It’s realizing your mind doesn’t need fixing—it just needs understanding. Confidence comes when you stop believing every scary story your thoughts tell you. You can’t control the waves, but you can remember you’re not the ocean.
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