The Hardest Decision Ever: Should You Stay…or Should You Go?
Have you reached the delicate and painful phase of your marriage where it is YOU who is questioning everything?
Have you uttered any of these thoughts to yourself?
- I can’t live like this anymore
- I deserve to be treated better
- Is this as good as my sex life will ever be?
- She’s done and it’s all hopeless anyway
- I have too much self-respect to stay any longer
- I may as well give her what she says she wants
- I want to be in a relationship with someone who WANTS me!
If you have thought any of those things, you’re not alone.
It’s scary.
And as much as you THINK you’re getting clear about your decision, all of the “Yeah, but’s” pour into your head.
- What about the kids? Don’t they deserve an intact family?
- What will people think? Everyone thinks we’re in great shape!
- What about the MONEY? I can’t lose half of everything.
- What if I’m moving too fast?
- What about the 10, 20, 30, 40 years of history together?
- What if we could make something better out of this mess?
We want to offer you a clearer view and a clearer mind about all of this.
I’ve had this conversation HUNDREDS of times with men in many different situations. The variables you’re facing might include:
- My kids are so young!
- My wife is anxious/depressed/mentally ill!
- My wife is physically sick!
- I don’t have the income to support two separate places!
- My wife is seeing another man…or another woman!
- She says she “Just doesn’t know what she wants” and I feel totally stuck!
Again. Welcome to the club. You may be special, brother. But this story is NOT new.
The good news is you can gain clarity, courage, confidence and calmness in the face of what feels like a sh*t show.
You may have read a book we promote often to our community.
Hold On To Your N.U.T.s is an amazing book by men’s coach and author, Wayne Levine, that helps men establish their own values and personal sense of power and direction. Wayne teaches that your “non-negotiable, unalterable terms” (NUTs) are a critical part of becoming a strong, confident, self-respecting man. (you can get the audio version free with our program)
And when it comes to making the hardest decisions of your life, you better have your N.U.T.s in order.
Wayne Levine and I have teamed up to invite you to a LIVE 4-part coaching conversation with men like you who want more:
- Clarity
- Confidence
- Courage
- Calm
- Insight
- Understanding
- Compassion
Our “Should You Stay or Should You Go” program is a LIVE, 4-session, deep dive coaching conversation and Q&A event where you will get what you need to get unstuck.
The worst feeling ever is to not know what you’re next decision should be. We will help you understand your situation more clearly and feel more confident in your decision making process.
There are many good reasons a man should STAY in his relationship.
And there are many good reasons a man should GO.
Click this LINK to get more information about this event that takes place on four Saturday mornings starting July 26th.
We want you to join us and to find the peace of mind you need to make the hardest decision of your life.
Before each session we will be asking you to submit any specific questions you want us to address during the live session.
After registration, you’ll receive an email with a few questions to help us know you, some details about your situation and your personal goals and desires.
Recordings will be provided if you miss a session.
P.S. If you’re already a paying member of the GG2GM Roundtable Membership, I will give you the 6 months free membership offer mentioned on the info page.
Q: How do I know if it’s time to leave my marriage or try to save it?
A: You’ll know when you’ve found clarity, not just frustration. Don’t decide from pain or anger—decide from calm, self-respecting confidence. That’s what we teach men to build first.
Q: Why do I feel torn between wanting to leave and feeling guilty about my kids and family?
A: Because both your integrity and your fear are pulling at you. The goal isn’t to rush—it’s to find peace with whatever you choose, so your kids see a grounded, courageous father either way.
Q: What should I do if I’m stuck and my wife says she “doesn’t know what she wants”?
A: Stop waiting on her clarity. Get your own. You can’t lead from confusion—start by defining your values, your N.U.T.s, and what kind of man you want to be in this moment.
Q: How can I make a good decision when everything feels like a mess?
A: You slow down, breathe, and seek perspective. Good decisions come from a calm mind, not a chaotic one—and that’s exactly what the Should I Stay or Go process helps you build.
Q: Why do I feel guilty for wanting more from my marriage?
A: Because you’ve been taught that staying miserable is noble. It’s not. Self-respect isn’t selfish—it’s the foundation for love, leadership, and the kind of partnership worth keeping.
Q: What’s the first step to finding peace with my decision about my marriage?
A: Start by focusing on clarity, not control. Learn who you are, what you value, and how to stand tall in uncertainty. Peace comes from living in alignment—not from knowing the outcome.
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