How to Rebuild Trust In Your Marriage
If you want to rebuild trust in your marriage, it starts with a cold, hard look at your own behavior. Women feel unsafe around a man with no consistent opinion, they hate us being wishy-washy and indecisive.
5 Traits Of A Wishy-Washy Man
Has your woman ever complained about you being undependable or wishy-washy?
Do you ever feel like you’re stuck and just can’t follow through on things?
Do you ever feel like other men are more confident than you and get more done?
I want to talk about being a WISHY-WASHY MAN.
They are more common than you think. I was one – and still am sometimes.
The key traits of a wishy-washy man are:
- He is slow to answer questions and says “I don’t know” a LOT
- He feels sluggish in his mind and body and regrets not following through on things he wants
- He finds himself DEFENDING himself when pressured by others
- He doesn’t really have a f&*$ing opinion about anything
- He stews quietly in anger about his circumstances – mostly mad at himself
Any of those sound familiar?
A wishy-washy man is uninspiring to himself.
He has a lot of negative self-talk and beats himself up a lot.
He isn’t happy because he can HEAR HIMSELF speak and he doesn’t like what he hears.
Often, he knows his wife wants more from him. More leadership, more decisiveness and more confidence.
And it pisses him off that he just can’t seem to follow through.
In this video I give you more insight and offer you the first steps you can take to fix this.
How to Stop Being Wishy Washy and Get What You Want
Stop Being Wishy-Washy By Owning Your Thoughts
This is a little “tough love” brother.
I can’t tell you how grateful I am to have men in my life who will challenge my excuses, my justifications and my fears.
They will call me on my bullshit when they see that my thinking is screwed up. And they do it with love and with my best interest in mind.
That’s why I’m bringing it up for you. Maybe you don’t have anyone to challenge you to step up and out of your sluggishness.
Sometimes just having a mirror held up to your face makes a man flip and switch and start making changes immediately.
It’s absolutely amazing how fast a man can turnaround his sense of confidence, clarity, focus and happiness when he decides he is going to OWN his thoughts and his actions.
One of the biggest challenges for the wives and girlfriends of my clients is believing how fast a mental shift is made in their man.
They want to believe it, but they don’t trust it. (as in, why couldn’t you do this years ago?!)
But, it is real. And it’s permanent.
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It’s an immediate switch from wishy-washy to confident, clear and accountable. It’s almost too good to be true.
Stop Being Wishy-Washy To Create Safety
How would you like to hear your wife or girlfriend say, “I don’t know what’s gotten into you…but I like it!”?
Seriously. This is what happens when a man stops being wishy-washy and does his work.
If you’re ready to do some work, move quickly and accelerate your growth so fast it will make your head spin, then you’re ready for a deep dive coaching discovery call.
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The life and relationships you want can’t happen until you stop being wishy-washy. Start making up your mind and notice how good it feels to bring leadership, decisiveness and safety to your relationship.
Q: Why does my wife say she can’t trust me anymore?
A: Because indecision feels unsafe to her. A woman can’t relax around a man who constantly says “I don’t know,” avoids decisions, or defends himself under pressure. Trust rebuilds the moment you show consistent opinions, clear choices, and steady emotional leadership.
Q: How do I stop being wishy-washy in my marriage?
A: Start by owning your thoughts. Stop outsourcing decisions, stop hesitating, and stop waiting for permission. Confidence isn’t mystical—it’s choosing a direction and following through. Women trust a man whose words align with his actions, even when the decisions are imperfect.
Q: Why do I freeze or say “I don’t know” when she asks what I think?
A: Because you’ve trained yourself to avoid mistakes instead of taking a stand. That hesitation kills attraction. Your wife doesn’t want a perfect answer—she wants a man with a pulse, a perspective, and the courage to speak it without apologizing or defending.
Q: How do I rebuild emotional safety when I’ve been inconsistent for years?
A: Safety comes from predictable leadership, not promises. When she sees you follow through, stay calm under pressure, and stop being defensive, her body relaxes. Consistency—not words—restores trust. A decisive man is a safe man.
Q: Can a wishy-washy man really change quickly?
A: Absolutely. When a man finally owns his thoughts and stops making excuses, the shift is instant. Wives often don’t believe it at first—but the change sticks when it comes from internal standards, not a performance to win approval.
Q: What’s the first step to becoming a more confident, decisive man?
A: Hold a mirror to your own behavior and stop waiting for someone else to push you. Decide who you’re going to be, set your own standards, and live by them daily. Confidence is clarity. Leadership is consistency. Safety is the byproduct.
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