Do You Feel Powerless In Your Marriage?
Feel powerless in your marriage? Every day I speak to successful men, great fathers, fit & healthy, but with no confidence in their intimate relationships.
Here’s some background about the video: I shot it to give you immediate support and perspective for maintaining your solid sense of manhood. It’s actually a “coaching video” custom-made for you if you want it.
Sometimes I’ll paraphrase the videos I shoot so you can read it instead.
Not this time. I just let it fly in this video in a stream of consciousness. I speak fast and furiously. It wouldn’t be the same if I typed it out.
I use the phrase “real man” cautiously.
While There Are Many Forms Of Masculinity, I Believe The Most HEALTHY Masculinity Is A Matter Of Who You Are BEING
So many caricatures of manhood have been shown in the TV and film world. You may think it’s an “act”. You may think it’s a style or persona. You may think there’s a script.
I believe the foundation of a cool, calm, strong, capable man is based first in his ability to model kindness, compassion and respect.
That’s the first bit of coaching I give in this video when I explain what LEADERSHIP means when you’re a healthy man.
Then I give you the next 3 key traits of a healthy, “real” man.
I hope you enjoy it as much as it did shooting it..
How to Be a Real Man – Post Election
The Clarity I Have To Be The Man I Want To Be Can Be Your Clarity Too
I know what you’re thinking. “I don’t need no stinkin’ coach!”
I’ve had a number of coaches in my life. Soccer, basketball, lacrosse and baseball were my sports. (note these all involve short sprints…short legs)
I even had a speaking coach and a training coach when I was doing teaching in the corporate world.
The idea of a “Man Coach” or “Relationship Coach” would have made me laugh out loud back then.
If you ever wondered what personal coaching felt like, looked like or sounded like, this video is a good example.
Actually, we tend to listen more than we talk.
We listen to you YOU, your story, your challenges and your biggest desires. Then we ask you questions nobody has ever asked. Then we help you see a clear path to getting what you want.
I’m inviting you to a conversation to feel what it’s like when YOU are the center of attention. Your needs and your fears. Your desires.
It’s the deepest, most powerful and most intimate conversation you’ll have all year.
You’ll wonder why you can’t talk like this with your wife. You’ll wonder why you haven’t been this open and emotionally raw with your kids.
Most guys say our deep-dive consultations are more valuable and ACTIONABLE than years of therapy or marriage counseling.
And that feels really good.
And I know you’ll like it too. ;^)
There you go. A shameless invitation to connect with you. No strings. No expectations. Just brotherhood and service.
Living by my own set of rules. Boundaries. Non-negotiable terms and expectations of myself and for myself. These have made me into the man I want to be. I can show you how to do the same. The ball is in your court to reach out.
You can submit the Contact Form if you want to personally experience what powerful coaching really is.
P.S. My book, Straight Talk Tools for the Desperate Husband drills a hole in your head and reveals all the thoughts you’re having about marriage and then it tells you what to do next! Click that link to get it.
Here’s what a recent reader said:
“Reading this book was as if someone had been following me and writing down everything going on with my marriage and my mind. Great solutions for big problems.”
Q: Why do I feel powerless in my marriage even though I’m successful in every other part of my life?
A: Because marriage exposes the one place you can’t “perform” your way to safety. Your relationship triggers deeper insecurities, not skill gaps. Feeling powerless doesn’t mean you’re weak — it means your identity is tied to her reactions. Reclaiming power starts with leading yourself: your presence, your boundaries, your mindset.
Q: What does it actually mean to be a “real man” in a relationship without acting fake or macho?
A: A real man isn’t a persona — he’s a way of being. Calm, kind, grounded, compassionate, and clear about who he is. Healthy masculinity isn’t barking orders or pretending not to feel. It’s leadership through presence. It’s modeling strength and kindness at the same time. That’s the foundation of solid manhood.
Q: How do I become the calm, confident, solid man my wife can trust and respect again?
A: You stop trying to impress her. You stop trying to be what you think she wants. Confidence comes from living by your own values, your own non-negotiable rules, and holding yourself to a standard that you respect. Women trust men who trust themselves. It starts with clarity, boundaries, and emotional leadership.
Q: What’s the difference between therapy and the kind of masculine coaching you’re describing?
A: Therapy often analyzes feelings. Masculine coaching sharpens who you’re being. Instead of talking in circles, you get direct questions no one has ever asked you — the kind that create instant clarity, power, and action. Most men say one deep consultation gives them more grounding than years of counseling. It’s practical, relational, and life-changing.
Q: Why is it so hard to talk deeply with my wife but so easy to open up in a coaching conversation?
A: Because with your wife, you fear judgment, disappointment, and losing connection. With a coach, you feel zero pressure to perform. You’re allowed to be raw, honest, emotional, even messy — and still respected. Once you experience that kind of safety, you learn how to bring the same grounded presence back home.
Q: What should I do if I want to feel stronger, clearer, and more masculine in my relationship?
A: Start with one courageous decision: reach out. A powerful man doesn’t suffer in silence. He gets perspective, support, and clarity so he can lead his life again. Whether it’s the Roundtable, 1-to-1 Masculine Confidence Coaching, or the Divorce Bomb course, the path begins with you choosing action over avoidance.
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